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I think a bigger cause for concern is the 6% drop in Democrat support. What's up with that? What changed with regards to gay marriage in the past year that caused Democrats to back off?
Democrat voters =/= democrat party.
Lots of people vote democrat because they dislike the republicans for no woke reasons. I am sure when I list reasons, people will rightly point out that many of them apply to democrats as well but are more commonly associated with republicans.
a) Health care being expensive/inaccessible
b) Neoconservative warmongering
c) Republicans clearly valuing corporate profits over the environment.
d) Trickle down economics not trickling down.
Thinking all democrat voters are like the democrat party itself is
Don't forget: I don't really Like the Democrats but I'm pretty sure Republicans hate me.
Applies pretty extensively to many ethnic minorities, hell to many gays, to people who live in cities generally.
Doesn't particularly matter whether they are right or wrong, just that they believe it to be true.
I think objectively you'd have to be pretty cucked to vote R in Florida as a naturalized or even 2nd gen Chinese immigrant right now.
Can you explain this statement?
Florida has made it illegal for Chinese citizens to own land within certain distances of military facilities or essential infrastructure, and limits their holdings anywhere in the state to two acres. Notably, the intersecting radii foreclose any Chinese citizen owning land anywhere in Miami, and possibly other city centers as well.
https://apnews.com/article/florida-chinese-citizens-property-law-4aeecc7a9470d03726658f1ef7b1d1f1
Somehow the limit to two acres is actually more insulting than anything else.
Since China bans dual citizenship, this does not apply to anyone "naturalized or even 2nd gen Chinese immigrant". I would not feel particularly cucked by a similar law targeting Indians.
https://www.dualcitizenshipreport.org/dual-citizenship/china/
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China doesn't allow dual citizenship, so this isn't a practical concern for children of Chinese immigrants. I suppose it's still cucked if you think they wanted to ban people who were ethnically Chinese but had to settle for less, but it seems more likely to me that Florida merely wants to ban people who are connected with the current Chinese government and don't want to require a full investigation every time someone buys land.
It's theoretically possible for a person to be against Chinese immigration but perfectly friendly to ABCs.
Most of my Chinese friends report that these theoretical specimens are rare; far more common is people who hate Chinese immigration being repeatedly asked where are you REALLY from? Or catching the occasional racial slur.
More to the point, if you say "I don't hate you but I don't want more people like you to be here" that's iffy right off the bat; and it doesn't matter what's true it matters what one would perceive as an ABC. And you have to have terminal pathological levels of charity to one's enemies to believe it. In other words, a cuck.
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Beer-bellied UAW (et al) workers who are still voting Dem because it was the done thing in the 80s could make up the 6% all by themselves!
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My baseless speculation is that these are older people who bought into the "we can't change who we are" rhetoric from years past, but have been spooked by the the obvious into thinking, "hey wait a second, I bet a lot of these gay kids today could change who they are."
As Anita Bryant famously said:
She was called a bigot and cancelled, but time has proven her right.
That's true of ideology and religion, but I don't think it's true of gays.
I'd wager that as an extension of that old "if you wiped out all religions and record thereof tomorrow, the same religions would never arise again, even if different ones did" though experiment, if you erased all knowledge of homosexuality from the akashic record of humanity... You'd probably still have homosexuality happening again in short order. No matter how repressive the society, it still happens. It happens in non-human species.
Yet another example if "if you were wrong, then you would be wrong." If religion is false then it is purely cultural, yes. Assuming that it is false, and then using the fact that it would therefore be cultural as evidence that it is false, is extremely common and annoying.
What is common and annoying is people of different religions assuming that theirs is the true one, with quite scant evidence. Even in spaces that are ostensibly concerned about epistemology.
Purely logically, at least 99 of 100 One True Lord Gods must be fake, or all of them are not as One True as the religions teach.
Sure, and the same is true of absence of religion. Logically, out of the set of contradictory belief systems, at most one is correct.
Besides, I don't care what belief systems we're talking about, you can't just manufacture your own evidence out of nowhere like that.
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Even assuming another revelation, how else would it go that the exact same revelation would occur again? Even if the Quran or the New Testament were to be revealed again, the culturally and historically contingent events would not arise in the same way. I think the argument here is more in the definition of "the same religion" here.
I mean yeah there would certainly be some minor differences, the question is how major they have to be before it counts as a new religion. If there is a true religion though, presumably the same religion would arise again, minor differences in beliefs and historical context notwithstanding.
So you're saying if there's a sufficient similarity of values and beliefs it is substantively the same to you?
Hayy Ibn Yaqzun argues the same, that Islam effectively arises spontaneously absent human interference.
Yeah I'd say so, what else enforces religious continuity? The survival of institutions? Seems to me like beliefs are by far the most important aspect of most religions.
I think generally you can count on the belief system, if there is a true one, actively interfering with the world to bring the true religion back. Muslims believe an angel appeared to Mohammed; under their belief system surely another angel would show up to a new guy and share God's word again if that knowledge were lost. Us Mormons believe this has already happened--some of God's word was lost from the bible so more was sent.
In general I think pretty much all belief systems, including atheism, are confident enough about their premises to believe that they would show up again were all their adherents killed somehow.
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True homosexuality is probably not a choice, but homosexual behavior as a kink (a solid part of what's called 'bisexuality' is likely caused by abuse.
Odds of bisexuals reporting CSA are way higher than for straights.
from:
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1079063215618378
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Seems like a motte/bailey.
Motte: As a group, homos must replenish from non-homosexuals' offspring, necessarily; if they didn't do this, they'd already not exist.
Bailey: Homosexuality is a choice; what's more, it is actually a movement agentically interested in swelling its numbers. To do so, they must make our kids gay.
The problem with the bailey is the assumption that ... either, kids should rather be gay but stay their lives firmly in the closet; or the way that this looks from the outside, kids should just "choose" to "be" straight. Which, as far as I can tell, is and remains largely impossible.
How long do they have to desist from same sex behavior before they're straight, a year, five?
It's possible for people to find their way out of homosexuality, but if they've made it large portion of their identity and social group it's difficult, like leaving a cult.
I mean, obviously it's possible for gays to procreate with women, since it's what happened historically. You can stick your dick anywhere, what you cannot change easily or at all is what you need to see in front of you, in reality or your mind's eye, to get hard in the first place.
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How long do you have to desist from hetero behavior before you become gay?
No time limit. Once you internalize and accept the gay idpol, you've caught the gay.
As the line goes... if you can be converted to gay by "idpol", you were gay and in the closet, mate. Personally I've noted 0 increase in urges of same-sex sex between my puberty and now.
Any decrease?
I think this may be a bit of semantics but there's certainly a cohort of men that have had some same-sex experience that never accepted / identified with the gay idpol.
The stereotype of the libidenous man between girlfriends who'd accept oral sex from 'gay' guys because the casual sex was easier.
Are you gay if primarily you desire opposite sex experiences and you don't identify with the idpol?
I think it's the shift from sex with men is something you do, to I have sex with men because I'm a gay. Is how you catch gay from the idpol.
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I didn't have gay sex for over five years, but I was still gay at the end of it.
No gay sex or no sex? Were you trying to have a different sort of life during this period?
Why would I? The notion of having sex with women is totally repellent to me, and likely most women would find me equally repellent, since I lack any positive qualities. To be honest I don't really even like having sex with men, but I do find them very attractive.
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Doesn't matter. As long as the impulse remains, they're still gay, even if they deny it.
Like yeah, you can repress, and live a thoroughly miserable existence attached to someone who you don't really love or feel attracted to -- imagine how you'd feel trying to carve a life out with a morbidly obese 3/10 munter to try and "cure" your attraction to fit, attractive people.
This is rank exaggeration. Ugly people do get married and by all accounts live happy lives. Just like them, I expect nearly all people, absent powerful cultural narratives to the contrary, can learn to love whoever they end up married to. I believe this of all gender combinations.
Shrug. Love and attraction are completely different things, as well you should know, assuming you have parents or siblings. Missing out on an entire massive chunk of the human experience, or mutual attraction between partners, is probably not healthy for people. See: incels.
By all accounts ugly people are attracted to each other too. Given all the weird stuff people are into, I find it very unlikely that human sexuality is so static as to be incapable of attraction towards the person with whom you share all sexual experiences.
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And this is a problem why exactly? They expect me to similarly repress myself if I'm to live and participate in society, so why should I care if other people expect it of them?
Who's expecting you to get into a gay relationship against your sexuality, exactly?
I'm pretty confident most people expect me to avoid relationships, if not interactions altogether, with people I'm attracted to.
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This seems a particularly worse case outcome.
Men with same sex attraction seem especially prone to drug, chemical, alcohol and parphillia induced or adjacent sexual activity. This seems throughly miserable to me. I guess they're fortunate that in current year there's an abundance of degeneracy to allow them to live their inner truths publicly.
'Straight' people sublimate all sorts of impulses and desires into more traditionally socially acceptable directions.
This is a subculture problem more than anything else. You might as well complain that people who choose to wear birkenstocks also engage in this behaviour. Obviously we need to discourage wearing of birkenstocks!
There are plenty of us who opt out of that sort of thing. Unfortunately, the stereotype is, to a degree, self reinforcing; people see this kind of thing touted as how "all gays" are, and so fledgling gays, newly discovering their sexuality, think that's "how to be gay" -- because it's a confusing time, and any kind of guidance is manna from heaven if you don't have a really well developed sense of personal identity at that point (and most teens don't).
I despair and despise every day that Drag Race and circuit parties have become the mainstream representation of being gay in the anglosphere.
and gay cruises, gay resorts, gay pride, gay...
The 'other' gay orthodox path in current year is 'marriage' and sometimes gaybies. Though this does not preclude drag, circuit parties, drugs and parphillias.
Calling it a subculture problem seems a little dismissive, especially when any move against it is met with accusations of bigotry or homophobia. Would the Birkenstocked claim bigotry against their sensible shoes?
Largely because there's so much more of it, and it's so accepted by segments of society. Is there any counter messaging that there are other ways to be gay, or you might not even be gay just a confused horny teenager without a regular non-gay outlet for your libido?
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ex-ex-gay?wprov=sfti1
https://www.washingtonpost.com/religion/2019/09/03/conversion-therapy-center-founder-who-sought-turn-lgbtq-christians-straight-now-says-hes-gay-rejects-cycle-shame/
Probably when the high profile ones stop switching back.
I do think conversion therapy bans are signs of creeping fascism, but the ex gay thing has a spotty record at best. Rs committed a massive own goal by endorsing divorce over the years, endorsing a view of human life that centers on self fulfillment over duty. From there gay marriage only makes sense.
And yet it was proposed as being merciful, and opposition to it as being cruel. Same with abortion today: oppose it, and you're a monster. Give in on the hard cases grounds (incest, rape) and then you're a hypocrite if you don't give in on the elective abortions.
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Aren't the
high profileattention seeking ex-gays more likely to be performative?The ex-gay thing is a bit weird but in a similar way so is the detrans thing, both have some genuine members that were likely groomed / self groomed into alphabetism. That there's no reliable treatment or search for a cure among the establishment. There isn't t a well worn path out. Much mental illnesses chronic. Worse many of this cohort are subject to vitriol from their former alphabet compatriots.
I know several seemingly happy, married with children, people that were practicing LGB in the 90's. They don't talk about it, and would be unlikely to join an ex-gay organization.
Elsewhere in this thread it was claimed that the largest increase in alphabetism was amongst the 'B', presumably they have more options / choices. Am I still B if I've not had sexual activity other than my opposite sex spouse in 20 years?
The destigmatization and ease of divorce as it fits into the larger context of the sexual revolution and feminism has had a number of deleterious effects.
It's a very particular type of self fulfillment that frequently looks like self-centeredness or narcissism.
How many white parties and how much cock does it take to find self fulfillment? I find this less creepy than marriage and gaybies, and the associated
assisted reproductionbaby trafficking.If you're still attracted to the same sex, yes.
Or, what, is nobody truly straight until they have straight sex the first time? "Nobody has a sexuality until they lose their virginity" is a logical follow-on from this idea that you must actively practice your sexuality in order to possess it.
I don't think this is true. I'd argue for internalizing and owning the identity. It may be concurrent with first sexual contact but does not have to be.
Non-offending pedophiles aren't still pedophiles?
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It's crazy to me how blind they are to this mistake. Just on it's face, divorce is a much more lethal blow to the sanctity of marriage than gay marriage could ever be. But the funnier thing is that even if you're just seething about dudes getting married, getting rid of no-fault divorce would probably solve that for you automatically.
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Is that chart accurate? Is gen Z really identifying at almost 1/5 gay? What the heck…
The jump from 5% to 20% in 10 years is shocking if true, good lord.
There's no cost to saying you're "he/they" now instead of "he/him".
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I genuinely think it's because of the oppression stacking: if you're vanilla cis/straight, this is The Worst Thing In The World. At most, you can be an ally, but you still get the blame for systemic oppression. But if you can just somehow make your way over to the oppressed/victim side, then you're in clover (relatively speaking, because you'll still be judged on the scale of 'are you white/able bodied etc.')
Easy way to do that is to be some flavour of 'queer' - nonbinary, for instance (the ones I've seen online are 9 out of 10 recognisably female, and the remaining ones are just plain weird).
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It’s mostly ‘bisexuals’ and ‘queers’ who coincidentally only date the opposite sex.
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I think the BTQA is doing a lot of heavy lifting in that stat, but it's still bizarre even if it's mostly 'B'Q'A'.
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May be worth noting the difference is almost entirely due to a growth in the bisexual category.
And much of that may just be due to people having lower thresholds—low but nonzero numbers on the Kinsey scale might have previously been considered heterosexual, but now bisexual (at least, if the person wishes to think of themselves that way).
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Pete, Chase and their gayby?
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The whole board shifted conservative. I can't count a single liberal shift in the list if you click through.
There's no good reason "Trans bad" would lead to a shift towards favoring the Death Penalty and opposing gambling.
What seems more likely is that the sample skewed more conservative or something like that. It feels distinctly off. Did people who are almost certainly planning on voting for Trump really decide to oppose "Divorce" and "Pre/extramarital Sex?"
Excepting the death penalty, I've also taken a wholesale shift rightward. I used to hold a statewide elected office in the youth wing of the Democratic Party. The riots of 2020 and Democratic responses to them, COVID, gender ideology, racial politics, and a few other things have completely shifted my political outlook.
I used to be an atheist and now I'm on the path to Catholic baptism. The last few years have been an absolutely wild ride.
Both congratulations and commiserations! The barque of Peter is a leaky old boat but it's been like that literally since the Twelve Apostles, so grab a bucket and keep bailing!
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That sounds like quite a story. Have you shared the whole thing it anywhere before?
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Congratulations on your upcoming babtism!
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The sample probably skewed right because we’re in an economic mess while the President represents the left. It’d be the opposite if Trump were in charge. I swear this is a documented effect, but I’m having a terrible time searching for it.
If you look at the provided line graph, there's a fair degree of randomness along the trend line. If it continues next year, then it might represent a real change.
Yeah. And it if it dips the independent line, too. That’s the first place I’d expect to see if a change is really alienating people.
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