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Not as much as the "in this house we believe" loonies
I saw one of those set out with bulk trash pickup a few months ago. Wasn't sure if it was someone moving or a legitimate vibe shift, but it was memorable.
In my neighborhood there is still one "In This House..." sign, it is counter-signaled by three "Love Lives Here" signs
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Just reading that gave me goosebumps.
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My wife really wants to make one with inane or insane things on it. In this house we believe... Dallas Sucks...Thomas Paine is the forgotten founding father...Nulla crux nulla corona...Demian Maia defeated Anderson Silva for the UFC middleweight title according to the ten point must scoring system...the hanging curveball... high fiber... good scotch... that the novels of Susan Sontag are self-indulgent overrated crap... I believe Lee Harvey Oswald acted alone. I believe there ought to be a Constitutional amendment outlawing Astroturf and the designated hitter. I believe in the sweet spot, soft core pornography, opening your presents Christmas morning rather than Christmas Eve, and I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days. Goodnight.
I have this hanging in my dining room.
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After this exchange happened earlier this year, I joked with my wife about making a sign that says "in this house we believe the Beatles are good music".
I think that is the closest thing I have to religion, in that I was raised with my family praising the Beatles all the damn time, and I got sick of them and branched out musically, rebelling against my family. But my family still ultimately instilled this value in me that I do fundamentally think the Beatles are good music, and I'm willing to fight to defend them.
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There’s an Etsy seller with a variety of insane in this house we believe signs. I can’t seem to find the storefront(it may be defunct), but things like ‘Bigfoot is real… I’m going to kiss him’ was just the tip of the iceberg.
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I've got an Internet one I want to make: Traps are not gay Shrek is love, Shrek is life Anime was a mistake Your waifu is shit Epstein didn't kill himself
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But that's the thing, I don't really see those anymore. I think the median Dem learned a lesson, maybe. But I'm not too hopeful
I still see these with regular frequency in my [major US city] in white, middle/upper middle class neighborhoods. Which are the only neighborhoods they had presence in to begin with. I see comparatively less of them than 4 years ago-- perhaps by half or more. You will see one per every couple of streets. Two or more in each neighborhood would be my guess.
I continue to see no Trump signals with certain exceptions. Plenty of Trump signs out in Ruralville by normal enough people. It's only when the "in my house" sign is accompanied by other sloganeering, yard art, and tacky decorations does the sign indicate a potential loon.
A willingness to put up a Trump sign in my neighborhood might indicate an intent to be excessively confrontational, and that's a trait lots of loons have, but that's also the point of political signs, no? It's why many people with taste don't smear their cars and homes in sloganeering. No offense to anyone that cares to.
I have not noticed any Harris signage yet. Maybe they haven't had time to pump those out yet? I do see the odd, old Biden/Harris bumper sticker, but it does feel like it is with less frequency than the last couple cycles.
I see Texas independence signs(probably as much ‘generic far right’ as much as secessionist), state legislators(I mean, they’re unopposed republicans so I don’t see the point), trump signs, and even in Dallas I haven’t seen an in this house we believe in a while. I’d be curious if @netstack is seeing political signs in the part of the metroplex which isn’t R+25.
On street corners/pasture fences, it’s the usual mix of R and D local signs.
In neighborhoods, I don’t think I’ve seen a Harris sign, but I’ve definitely seen more than a few Trump ones.
Bumper stickers are more mixed. Trucks only swing one way, but you never know who’s driving a Biden-bedecked SUV. There’s one car in my neighborhood with both Beto and Sanders stickers. They really know how to pick a winner.
These vehicles are everywhere and I usually assume they’re used. They certainly seem to be generally old enough.
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In my upscale Seattle suburb neighborhood the In This House and Black Lives Matter signs are gone. Before it was about every other block where you’d see one.
No one is sporting any presidential election signs.
There’s one guy that occasionally flies a Let’s Go Brandon flag, but he’s done that since I moved here three years ago.
There are a bunch of signs for the Republican running for a state legislative position, I’ve only seen signs for his incumbent opponent on public rights of way, not homes. But the primary had all the Republicans together earning like 40%.
There are a handful of governor’s race signs on either side, and that race appears actually competitive.
Interesting. It surprises me Seattle doesn't In This House anymore. Speaking in generalities, my city is much blacker, but far less woke than Seattle. Although the neighborhoods the signs go up in probably have comparable demographics to ones in Seattle. A declining trend regardless.
Seattle suburbs I would have guessed were blue as blue gets. Some push for change I reckon? As much change as state legislators can provide hah.
Oh I'm guessing Upper Queen Anne and Madison Park, fancy neighborhoods in Seattle proper, probably still do sport such signs. I haven't been to those neighborhoods in years, though.
The suburbs are more sane the city. We actually fund our police departments and encourage them to do their job. But the criminals they catch get handed off to a county-wide prosecutor who has a bias against prosecuting.
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When you do see those they are decked out on a loony display that will put the Trump supporter to shame
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Those are normies.
Even in the libbest area during the peak of nlm, maybe only 10-20% of the enemy put one of these signs out. These aren't normies and never were.
Stop waging culture war.
Yes, that means that besides avoiding casually derogatory sneers like "libbest" and "nlm" (which usually we'd probably let go if not stacked with a bunch of other antagonism), I am flatly telling you not to call people "The Enemy" when referring to your outgroup, because your outgroup posts here too.
Every time you want to say something about how much you hate your "enemy", ask yourself the following question:
If one of them posted here saying the same thing about me, would I be pissed off, and moreso if the mods let it pass?
Now making an argument that people who post "In this house" signs are not "normies" but are in fact political extremists is fine; you can say that if you think so. But you really need to knock it off with the low-effort sneerposting.
Libbest was not intended as derogatory at all but you got me on all the rest
Not at all
Well, that's nice, but I can assure you if a "lib" posted here about "the enemy" we'd get a bunch of reports, and accusations of being lib-subverted if we didn't mod them. We already get that just for letting leftists post.
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