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Hey guys, I'm running a survey on romantic preferences, and you've always been great in the past so I thought I'd ask if anyone is interested in participating in the new round.
Survey for people Attracted To Women
Survey for people Attracted to Men
I don't post here much - I had to reregister since it's been months since I last came around and I don't remember my old handle - but you can get a better sense of me find the results of the last survey we did at these pages: https://thingstoread.substack.com/p/honesty-agreeableness-and-sexuality https://thingstoread.substack.com/p/what-they-didnt-tell-you-about-political https://thingstoread.substack.com/p/in-defense-of-conservatives
I'm curious why you ask "I'd like a partner who is..." and two of the options are "educated" and "uneducated". Surely the response to one of these on a Likert scale is just the inverse of the response to the other?
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I'm looking forward to seeing the results and the analysis!
For what it's worth, on page one I was a little irritated with your two-word pairings several times. I'm often one, but not the other - so if asked on their own, I would have given different answers. Examples are:
Seconded, many of these adjective pairs aren't really synonymous. Many people are active (in the sense of being physically fit) but not talkative, and vice versa. "Carefree" to me suggests "lacking in neuroticism/anxiety", not lacking in moral principles.
Yeah, and even if you go by context, it doesn't work. I'm active in conversation - but not talkative. I prefer to ask questions, and have other people do the talking. This often means I steer the conversation and keep it going, but hearing what I say isn't that interesting to me.
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yeah, same.
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