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Culture War Roundup for the week of April 10, 2023

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I've heard that the success rate of frozen eggs in geriatric pregnancies is a lot lower than it's commonly understood to be, but I'm not that knowledgeable on the subject.

Do surrogate mother change the chances - in that case just pay 50000-100000 to some woman to carry them to term.

But that just makes the choice all the more stark - if you're a guy who wants to start a family, why would you pick a woman who's nearing 40 to do that with, instead of a woman 10-15 years younger for whom you don't have to shell out $100,000 in conception fees?

Because there exist in the world such things as love. And a human is generally speaking more than the sum of its parameters and identities. Also she may be able to suck golf ball trough a garden hose.

One possible reason would be because you get along better with the one who is 40 and shares your values, and you personally are a late-career tech person in the bay who has made good financial decisions and probably has a net worth with 8 digits where "shell out $100,000" is just not that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things.

I'm sure there's always at least one possible reason in the universe of possible reasons, but I'm trying to model what a typical man would do, not write a sitcom about a 40-year-old career woman who has a whole lotta love to give and is searching for someone who completes her. "Marry a millionaire" should not be anyone's plan for starting a family - if you've reached this point, odds are you've already lost the game.

She doesn't need to care about what a typical man would do, she needs to care about what the most desirable man who reads this and goes "you know, that is exactly what I'm looking for" does.

It is true that this approach would not scale to everyone doing it. I predict that

  1. This will in fact work out for her, because she is a prominent person in a community containing many neurodivergent people who weigh "smart" and "philosophically aligned" more heavily, and "functional", "young", and "fit" less heavily, in their evaluation of partners than is typical for the broader population.

  2. Conditional on this working out for her, it will inspire a number of people to do the same thing. It will mostly not work out for them, because they will mostly not have her advantages.

Or better yet: take the L, and don't reduce the motherhood of another person to a transaction. Leave the money to the kids of a family member who was smart enough to have them when the time was right.

Why?

Because there are certain things that are integral to our humanity, and motherhood is one of them. By buying it from another person you're dehumanizing them, and the child.

I am adopted. Is my real mother, my birth mother or me less than human? I know for sure that a lot of strings were pulled for that adoption to happen.

I am adopted. Is my real mother, my birth mother.

Objectively or sentimentally? Objectively, yeah she is, and even as far as sentiments are concerned, people usually believe adopted children have a right to know who their biological parents are.

or me less than human. I know for sure that a lot of strings were pulled for that adoption to happen

I didn't say surrogate children are less than human I said they're being treated inhumanely when they're bought. Whether your adoptive parents did that to you depends on the nature of the strings being pulled.

Is my real mother, my birth mother or me less than human?

Judging from your username, at least you and your birthmother (eggmother?).

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