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Wellness Wednesday for October 2, 2024

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So, uh, kind of gross but… having recently returned from some air travel, and going through a few airport bathrooms, is it really the norm for men (and women I guess) to loudly grunt and groan while dropping a deuce?

The amount of loud such noises coming out of the stalls across multiple airport bathrooms quite surprised me, as I’ve never felt the need to make vocalizations while getting my business done.

Is this the common technique, that I somehow failed to acquire? Or is there some kind of correlation I’m missing between people who crap in airports and people who make loud crapping groans?

Noise discipline under duress is really difficult. Shitting in the woods was a problem back in basic for many of my fellow conscripts. Between insects crawling up my bunghole, constipitants in the food, the need to dig your own shithole and the mockery of your peers, it was always more attractive to hold it in as much as possible. But when you finally needed to go, you let out your best karate kiai to gokublast out your ass.

I am INTENSELY curious about guys who needed to crap while under fire. The problem with asking grunts is that they are full of shit about everything, including how they claim they are no longer full of shit.

Grunting is for weaklings, personally I go with a victorious roar.

The only polite thing to do is cheer when someone roars and a satisfying 'ploop' of a single solid log makes its drop. 'You sunk my battleshit!'

Completely speculative, but maybe people are more prone to GI distress in the airport?

You have people who are dehydrated because they don't want to get up to urinate on the plane. People who got sloshed because they have anxiety about flying. People who ate things their digestive system isn't used to because that was the only option on the plane, or they came from a place without the food they are accustomed to. There's the factor of holding it because taking an unnecessary dump in an airplane lavatory is both unpleasant and rude. And finally, the possibility on being on your fifth cup of coffee because you had to get up at four AM to catch your flight and still have to go to a meeting this afternoon.

In general, I think you are not supposed to have to push so hard it requires groaning. It seems plausible though, that the selection on people who are so desperate they would use the public toilet also selects for people who are having an irregular bowel movement.

The toilet stall is the last place where I will care about sensory manners. It's the designated place for pissing and shitting, why would I try to hide the fact that I'm doing exactly that in there? If anything, it's the people that are shooting up in there that should be trying to sound like they are taking a dump. So yes, if I feel the need to grunt or groan when suffering from a stool irregularity in a bathroom I will do exactly that.

Fuck people that don't wipe the seat/sink or use the brush, though.

The toilet stall is the last place where I will care about sensory manners.

I think there's a misunderstanding. I'm not worried about manners or complaining. This isn't a judgement thing, it was a curiosity. I'm expressing casual surprise that from the sound of it people regularly make loud vocalizations while crapping, because it sounds like a lot of 'straining', which I don't understand.

I think you just have enviable stool quality. People that are constipated have to strain harder.

Airports contain many people from different cultures passing through. In some of those cultures, it isn't a faux pas to make loud noises while undertaking ablutions (see snorting while clearing nose, hawking up phlegm, spitting, grunting while defecating, peeing directly into water rather than side of the porcelain to limit splashing noises).

I noticed in the West that there was less of the type of thing you're talking about compared to overseas. While overseas I change my sensory filters to ignore all sorts of things that would ping my normal disgust threshold.

Edit: Also airports give a greater than normal feeling of anonymity. People would feel more free to do something in transit that they wouldn't do in their workplace bathroom for instance.

Ok but like, at home alone are people letting out load grunts while shitting? My surprise isn’t the public aspect, it’s the urge to make noises to begin with

Ok but like, at home alone are people letting out load grunts while shitting?

I have no idea. I presume so unless there's some weird exhibitionist kink out there where people are like 'You know what? I'm going to shit really loud in this public toilet so everyone knows that I'm shitting. Oh yeah.. you like that? Oh so dirty.' lmao

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