iprayiam3
14hr ago
When I was a kid in the 90s we got take out now and then; as an adult (making much more than 100k), I can’t afford such luxury. Who are all these people door dashing, and also finding it an indispensable example of modern convenience?
iprayiam3
4d ago
Yes, of course they exist. What I said is made up is the 'social relevance'.
iprayiam3
4d ago
I do think that a lot of the recent obsession (Dreher etc) with the “groypers” is somewhat overdone -
somewhat?! it’s social relevance is completely made up controlled opposition. It’s exactly like Qanon. I never met a single person on the right who subscribed to it, yet somehow from the left and media it was everywhere. The groyper scare is a completely astroturfed attempt to police and taboo/discredit certain opinions on the right
iprayiam3
6d ago
Like @FiveHourMarathon, my church is the one I grew up in and my children go to school in the same Catholic school attached to it. It’s very beautiful to really feel such a circle of life sense to the place
iprayiam3
13d ago
Yes, but as you mention we've been doing it for years. There's a ceiling to the effect you're going to get. There's only so much sugar you can put into cereal; only so much salt on potato chips; you can only get so high, so drunk, so sedated.
And those are all direct chemical effects; Dopamine hits are mediated. Look, screen addiction is already bad yes, and I think it will get marginally worse, but only so much directly from AI hyperstimuli, and groups of people will be hit differently. There's not some magical 'infinity-slop' that will eventually scratch everyone's itch.
A lot of screen addiction is a loop that comes from atrophied real world satisfaction. I'm at my worst with phone scrolling when 1. There's a lot of built up stress in my outside life, and 2. I enter habit-forming patterns of de-stressing. The habit is from the 'unplugging', and the stimulus only needs to be enough to keep the habit up.
iprayiam3
29d ago
Yes; the goal of overprescribing declining zionism of the american right to goblins like Fuentes is another vain attempt to discredit the viewpoint as unacceptable. In reality Fuentes is at best a downstream symptom of the changing tides, not a cause or much of an instigator.
iprayiam3
29d ago
You can be reminded all you want, but these are not really remotely comparable. Donald Trump was a decades long, successful, popular mainstream celebrity businessman with the top TV show for years running.
Because Donald was elected, isn't reason to bring 'disqualifying flaws' down to zero in predictive value of other people in other contexts
iprayiam3
30d ago
‘was interviewed by Tucker’ != ‘has become a major force’. Sure, I’ll grant minor updating toward the premise, but certainly nothing that has come to pass. Tucker mostly isn’t interviewing the major players, and his own star is on the decline
I do think that the Right will become increasingly split on Israel, and that this will include some loud antisemitic voices, some loud voices questioning blind support and being called antisemitic, and a lot of people quietly sliding away. However:
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Specific, fringe antisemtic voices will be a minimal contributor to the process and
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Pro-Israel voices will amplify and blame the fringe voices in #1 as a way to deletions disagreement with their fading hegemony.
Nick Fuentes is not and there is no strong evidence of him becoming anything more than a fringe, very online persona.
iprayiam3
1mo ago
Sure, the women wearing baggy jeans aren't trying to dress woke or bad on purpose. I'm suggesting that it's more downstream on the causal chain, as a product of a bunch of media and fashion trends that intentionally sidelined traditional beauty aesthetics.
iprayiam3
1mo ago
I'm surprised to hear you say you're not seeing this. This is year 3 of the trend, with it first getting popular in winter of 2025. I would call this the average level of fit on women I see these days. None of the women under 30 at my organization have every worn 'skinny' or even slim fitting jeans. I was at a pumpkin patch with my kids yesterday and about 80-90% of the women were wearing baggy wide legged pants.
Assuming you’re correct about the trend, though, I would gently suggest that not everything can or should be tied to “woke.”
Ok sure. But this specifically, I am hypothesizing is related to a general trend in media over the past years that have pretty explicitly pushed a reaction against conventional beauty standards of body shapes and fashion styles, and general downplaying of overt 'sexiness'.
It is a combination of very obvious representation decisions made in media, and my 'hot take' is that baggy fitting clothes are a lagging outcome of part of the trend. Showing skin is very 'out', and I don't think it's crazy to say that woke is part of the culture that's produced it.
iprayiam3
1mo ago
I don't think it's fully attributable, but I do think that's part of the equation. Surely Covid is another, with everyone living in their pajamas for a few years. But I do think that there was an androgynous uglificaiton / anti-beauty trend that went mainstream around MeToo. The body positivity stuff, plus size models, etc. It's what the Syndney Sweeny ad was a reaction to / return to form against.
There were several years where media and fashion pushed hard against conventional beauty representation, and I don't think it's crazy that it worked its way into fashion generally
iprayiam3
1mo ago
Sure, a flowing can be nice when it draws attention to another part or the whole of the aesthetic. But the current incarnation is not Princess Jasmine. It's paired with over-sized baggy sweatshirts, and a general amorphous pajama vibe. I think the whole current vibe is very anti-aesthetics.
iprayiam3
1mo ago
Yes, it's part of a cycle, but the specifics and timing of the manifestations differ under different context. The last 'cycle' of baggy jeans was in ~2009 with the "Boyfriend cut" as a reaction to the all-in jump on skinny. But the boyfriend cut was 1. less pervasive, and 2. much less baggy and androgynous (ironically), because 3. paired with more feminime styles. Baggy jeans were rolled and paired with heels, etc.
iprayiam3
1mo ago
When are women going to realize how bad the baggy jeans trend looks (especially as part of a whole loose baggy style)?
Women walk around now looking like they’re in pajamas.
This seems like a lagging element of the anti-beauty aesthetics of woke, and I’m confused how wide spread anti-feminine dress has become
iprayiam3
1mo ago
This already happened with 'racist', which was replaced with 'white supremacist' around 2021. Nazi is just the next word on the euphemism treadmill
iprayiam3
1mo ago
At least some of the “praise for hitler” was mocking their own side/base for being far right.
Don’t know much about the rest. They should resign, but for being stupid and a liability not for their jokes.
In this day and age how is anyone dumb enough to make edgy jokes in professional or at least “official” forums.
Save it for the bar. Be friends with people IRL that you can meet with physically and say dumb shit to.
iprayiam3
1mo ago
But that aside, it seems to me like "have you asked AI" is the 2025 equivalent of "let me Google that for you", and is just as annoying as that was.
At one of my first professional jobs, I had a very knowledgeable teammate who I relied on for a lot of advice and information. Constantly asking, have you tried googling it, what actually one of the most helpful pieces of mentorship I ever received.
On the other hand, your boss doesn’t realize it, but he’s digging his own grave. You respect him now, but you won’t still when you realize he’s outsourced his job to ChatGPT, while getting paid more than 20$/mo.
I’ve had this with several of my senior leadership, including a C-level or two. The folks who are doing their jobs, specifically the leadership parts and insight-providing parts, withAI have lost the troops.
While I use AI constantly behind the scenes, I absolutely never let it mediate communication with my team or peers.
My proposal is that we redefine the system at 1/25 the value is to protect more long term inflation.
The quarter becomes the ‘new penny’, and we mint a new nickel, dime, quarter and bills appropriately scaled in value
iprayiam3
2mo ago
et me make an analogy. I have a friendly acquaintance who has a PhD in English. Really clever and funny guy. And, importantly for this story, he's a not especially rabid or antagonistic atheist of Russian Jewish descent. And at some point, a decade ago, we were at a barbeque, and he was talking about the time that he had spent, earlier in his academic c
Mexicans are Catholic Christians, with cultures nearly as much descended from European colonialism as the US's. It's not surprising that this is a more permeable barrier, and not surprising that their 3rd generations are similar to your average American with an ambiguously religious background that has melted into secular Americanism.
I don't understand just assuming it will be the same with further cultures.
iprayiam3
2mo ago
I think you should give your faith a second look. It lines up best with the outlook you have on life, but seeing your dad’s failures up close has tainted it for you. But he is not the yardstick to measure faith by. You can in fact interpret him in the opposite way. He was flawed and hypocritical but this hypocrisy was because in spite of his flaws and failure he recognized to some extent a real morality that was extrinsic to himself. He may have never consciously internalized this but it seems apparent in your description that some of his toxicity was his own cognitive dissonance
iprayiam3
2mo ago
A therapist had told me I liked the 13 year old because she was likely traumatized and had been made more mature before her age, but now I think it's probably the other way around; I was very immature, and still am.
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I told her I had heard she liked to kick frogs from someone else, and she said she did, because she hated them, and not only that, she liked to cut them open while they were still alive, and watch as their organs throbbed until expiration, because it made her feel alive in a visceral way.
No I think the therapist is correct here.
I do have a family of 6+. I’m not literally unable to afford it, but it is a very unjustifiable expense against the other things that go into budget. And I’m talking specifically delivery, not takeout
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