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I don't have anything to add here, but I had a flashback to a bad Tinder date. Halfway through a coffee the girl accused me of lying about my height, because 'her brother is my stated height and I'm shorter than him'. I said we should go find a measuring tape straight away and see who was wrong. May as well have thrown some gas on a fire. Kept accusing me of lying but wouldn't let me prove her wrong so I just shrugged and left.
I don't know what @IGI-111 is talking about. This is a great argument for the existence of government IDs, height on said IDs, and felony charges for anyone who lies about their government measured height.
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One of my online dates.
Her: "Are you really 6 foot 2?"
Me: "Well not exactly, I'm 6 feet 1 and 3/4"
Her: "I could tell, you shouldn't lie about your height"
Me: -_-
Wow, just wow. The audacity on your part to attempt such a brazen rape by deception. Thank goodness she caught onto your machinations early; could you imagine the trauma she would have experienced had she only found out afterward that she got defrauded into lying with a sub-6'2.00" "man"?
6'2" is an accurate representation of your height to the nearest inch. It's not like you were 6'1.25" and ceiling'd it to 6'2" (which is still within the realm of acceptability), much less added 1-3" to your barefoot height as is NBA tradition. Women regularly and guiltlessly lie about their weight and bodycount, but I guess at least for this woman, men accurately rounding their height to the nearest inch is a bridge too far when it's upward.
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YTA for insisting on a measuring tape instead of being a decent person and believing her emotional truth as a woman that you were lying about your height.
What an epic coffee moment, in more ways than one. At least you turned 360 degrees and bounced, leaving the sunk costs be.
Since thot-patrolling sisters is verboten nowadays, that could be a genius brotherly tactic to passively cockblock guys from banging your sister: Understating your own height to your sister so that she thinks all guys she encounters are shorter than they actually are, thus increasing her chances of getting the ick.
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I hope you started carrying a measuring tape on dates after that.
Measuring tapes are the greatest aid to bavarian fire drills known to man.
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“I’ve got six feet of rope in my truck. Want to see?”
Part of the Tinder starter pack along with chloroform, rag and breath mints.
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