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Culture War Roundup for the week of February 10, 2025

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Something nobody's mentioned yet: it's not just feminist men, it's men who are part of the "new age liberatory open relationships and bsdm because all old-fashioned sexual ethics are tools of the patriarchy" feminism that's popular in scenes like new atheism, lit shit, the film industry, etc.

You don't see e.g. Dworkin's husband getting accused of rape, because radical feminism doesn't provide the environment for weird sex shit. (At least involving men. They have their own issue with "womyn cannot rape or be violent, so telling anyone your lesbian partner beats you with a chair leg would be Letting Down The Systerhood")

But yes, as I've said before, 90% of it is the cycle of "high status men in feminist scenes have an endless supply of women who will happily do weird fetish shit" -> "retroactively regret it once the man goes from young and high status to old and merely rich" -> "reinterpret all old memories with the help of a therapist to match her current ick" -> "receive infinite praise and attention"

That's why none of these accusations are ever about something that happened last night, and there's always some string of enthusiastic text messages that are totally at odds with the way the accuser currently remembers things.

Edit: the situation Rincer talks about here is like the archetype for what I mean.

You’ll notice sex negative feminists don’t seem to have sex scandals- they apparently really believe and practice.

Are there any male feminists who describe themselves as "sex-negative"?

Yes, but traditionalist conservatives don't generally describe themselves as "feminist".

You don't see e.g. Dworkin's husband getting accused of rape, because radical feminism doesn't provide the environment for weird sex shit.

IIRC Dworkin was married (in the common-law sense) to a gay man. If he was never accused of raping a woman, it was probably for reasons unrelated to his politics or hers.

Dworkin was a political lesbian, Stoltenberg was a political gay man (IIRC way less of a thing but did exist), then they surprised themselves and the community by falling in love. Awkward! I know this from having been involved in the community, but I'm pretty sure Stoltenberg mentioned it in some of his writing, and Dworkin may have as well. Stoltenberg notably gave "nonsexist het sex" tips in IIRC Refusing to Be a Man (and they aren't implausible).

IIRC Dworkin was married to a gay man.

Would watch that anime.