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Why split hairs. Just don't.
drawing a distinction between "intoxicated but conscious and aware" and "unconscious" is not splitting hairs. The two states are distinct, which is presumably why you have chosen to frame the discussion as being about the latter.
If your argument is that intoxication invalidates consent even if the intoxicated person is conscious and apparently aware, say that. If your argument is that intoxication does not invalidate consent unless the person's awareness is compromised, say that. Be clear about the nature of your disagreement, rather than simply emoting. At the moment, it's not clear there even is a disagreement here, as opposed to a misunderstanding on your part.
Even having this conversation is a bad sign. Why would you need to worry about such distinctions?
This didn't start from a place of having 2 glasses of wine with dinner.
You're retreating to the motte after proposing the bailey. Classic stuff.
Okay, as it happens, I was about to mod you before @FCfromSSC did, because you're being obnoxious, low-effort and sneering throughout this thread.
You can argue the defensible position "We should have strict rules of consent which preclude having sex with people who are under the influence." You cannot imply that anyone who disagrees with you thinks it's okay to rape someone who's passed-out drunk. That is arguing in bad faith, and that is what I will warn you not to do.
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Hey. Please stop backseat moderating.
Why not. I just donated 100 bucks, and it is an open offer, come on up for themotte 2024 summer retreat. All expenses paid! as long as you can make it to Maine. This is how this stuff happens.
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I don't need to worry about it at all. I'm married, I and my wife are strictly monogamous, and neither of us drink or take drugs.
Society needs to worry about it, because the current default norm is that intoxication does not invalidate consent if the person is still aware, and for better or worse much interaction between the sexes proceeds on this assumption. If you wish to change those rules, I for one am amenable to it, but we should be clear on what the new rules actually are, and how they're going to be enforced. a ban on alcohol anywhere people are going to hook up seems like an obvious first step.
I reject your claim that "even having this conversation is a bad sign". You can argue why in more detail if you like, but this is a space for discussion between opposing viewpoints, not a space for silencing views one disagrees with. If you find the idea that there might be a reasonable distinction between intoxication that nonetheless allows consent and incapacitation that invalidates it so repugnant that all you can do is performatively harrumph about it, then you are free to either keep your performative harrumphing to yourself or else find somewhere else to do it.
This is a warning, please heed it.
Mod hat to defend rape. Lol count me out then buddy. Holy shit. This whole place is polluted by your presence. If you want to ban me for this? I'll be proud to wear it. God damn!
As you wish. You're a new user with no positive contributions of note, and seem uninterested in contributing in a constructive fashion, so I've set the ban to permanent since that seems to be your preference. If any other mods think it should be lowered to a tempban of whatever length, feel free.
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