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It's in quotes because it's not victim blaming. The idea that any argument other than the one that men need to be taught not to rape is essentially victim blaming i.e. accusing women of inviting rape upon themselves is dishonest and nonsensical. Yes, you should not have to be vigilant about getting roofied. There should be no social context where that is advisable. But there still is.
And why is feminist messaging clearly needed when it's not reaching the rapists? I'm all ears.
How about walking through the park or on the subway? Not much you can do about that unless escorted by bodyguards at all times. I guess i don't get your message here. Yes telling men not to rape is stupid, anyone willing to listen is already not going to rape. I get that part.
You go on to make claims about agency and the true message being not to victim blame, if that is the case then it isn't stupid and probably a message that still needs to get out there.
The notion that average women are routinely mansplained by mainstream society that walking in busy parks in broad daylight is to be avoided is preposterous. If, however, the argument is generally about the potential threat posed by mentally ill / drug-addicted aggressive homeless and vagrants, then I'd say that's a different kettle of fish, with all the political baggage that entails.
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Unfortunately feminists instantly shout down even the mildest, most sympathetic form of this message as "victim blaming". I've seen it happen many times. The idea that one should take any steps to try to avoid being a rape victim is very much taboo in the public discourse.
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