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Culture War Roundup for the week of August 28, 2023

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Do you really think that if Fruck's father came out of his coma and found out that his son had kissed him on the forehead during his coma, he'd be outraged and feel that his son had violated his personal boundaries?

"Outraged" is a strong word. I would expect him to be somewhat uncomfortable with his child's touching his unconscious body, but I would also expect him to consider this violation of personal boundaries to be extremely minor and easily forgiven, given the obvious depths of the child's love and grief from which it sprang.

I would expect him to be somewhat uncomfortable with his child's touching his unconscious body

Really? Are /u/Fruck and I the only people in this thread who think that this is a totally normal (even commendable) way to behave, and that the father would not have been even slightly bothered by this?

You are not alone but I don't have the slightest desire to engage.

I come from a culture that is very much against physical contact compared to the average Westerener, and I don't think most people back home would see anything wrong with kissing your comatose father's forehead. I certainly don't If anything that's seen as a good thing as it shows filial piety.