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I agree that his life shouldn't be destroyed or anything, but imagine the following (assuming that you're a straight man):
Right after you win the World Cup, a famous and powerful gay guy whom you're kind of acquainted with, who is physically stronger than you, puts his hands on both sides of your head and kisses you on the mouth on international television.
His motives may have been pure, maybe even not sexual at all (although Hermoso is cute, so I doubt any straight man would really have zero sexual feelings about her even in such a moment). But I can imagine that having the world see this video could make her feel humiliated, on top of whatever unpleasantness she may or may not have felt in the moment of the kiss. There is no need to reach for a narrative of woke persecution to explain her sequence of reactions.
Funnily though, this is an example of the strange subtleties of gender politics. I guess that straight men sometimes kiss each on the mouth in some cultures in moments of elation, and it is not generally interpreted as sexual. So it is possible that Rubiales had no sexual motives whatsoever (although again I doubt it, given what she looks like). But if, let us say somehow if he didn't, then this would be an example of a man being treated as doing something wrong for just treating a woman the same way that he would treat a man.
But again, I doubt that he has no sexual interest in her.
It's impossible to have a gay guy who would be attractive to the vast majority of males the way that a guy could be attractive to the vast majority of females.
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I mean it's pointless to argue about this but since you brought it up... I can definitely believe that there were no sexual feelings.
Yeah, the tattoos completely destroy and attractiveness I would feel for such a woman. I suspect many men are similar.
I'm not even talking about the tattoos.
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Is it the tattoos in an aesthetic vacuum, or is it the attribute signalling they convey?
A bit of both. I've seen tattoos that look good, but it's pretty much universally been on men and also very rare (I would say < 5% of all tattoos I've seen on men I would classify as tasteful). It's also very much their attribute signalling though, they signal low class in a way that you can't even hide (like e.g. a golden tooth).
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The problem with your hypothetical is this:
My optimal response as the footballer kissed by a gay man is I deliver a severe beating to this queer. If I had done that, I'd be the one being cancelled. OTOH, our girl probably wishes she had delivered a strong slap to the face of him, she just was too shocked. But if she had succeeded she would be cheered, and probably everyone would be in a better situation today.
So, again, we are learning bad lessons: 1) You gain from your own inability to react appropriately to mild aggression; 2) You are punished much harder than is warranted if your opponent is less competent than the average.
This response is arguably unnecessarily antagonistic (for which it has been reported twice) but I'm more inclined to lay down a warning for "inflammatory without evidence." There are plenty of examples of predatory homosexuals being on the receiving end of social or legal fallout. Asymmetries in social responses to behavior based on sex roles surely exist, and almost every culture warrior takes a turn arguing that those asymmetries are good actually, so your response to the hypothetical isn't necessarily wrong. But you've framed it in a needlessly inflammatory way ("severe beating to this queer") instead of taking the time to consult direct examples of same-sex sexual harassment and how it has been treated by the public over the years.
Stated a little differently, even if the substance of your post is correct, you've framed it in a way that is more likely to make people angry and defensive than to persuade them of your own correctness. That's exactly the kind of outcome the rules exist to discourage.
That is why it would be "my optimal response" not a consensus building attempt at telling others how they should feel.
Regardless. This topic seems one where the heckler's veto is overly privileged if you aren't banning people for reporting things of this nature. IMO.
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