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Slightly different take on where exactly the line is... is this recent drop via MR.
Are women liberal because they’re unmarried, or are they unmarried because they’re liberal?
I would expect a “traditional” “family-oriented” woman to be both more conservative and more willing to settle.
Having participated in the modern dating market, it's pretty staggering how different your reception is 'on the apps' with moderate in your bio versus left-wing. Changing that one detail literally 4x'd my response rate.
Which one did better?
Left wing by far
This is something I'm having a hard time with.
Up until about, say, the time of the pandemic, I was a fairly apolitical person. As a result I could, and did, date all kinds of girls. Since then, I've become honestly, genuinely conservative. But I still have a blue tribe-y background. I feel like I'm caught in an uncanny valley, where left-wing girls won't like me because I don't agree with them about virtually anything; but conservative girls don't like me because I came to it relatively late in life and am not a genuine, lifelong red-triber. Feels like all I can do is simply continue trying to become more attractive.
Atleast you're aware of the situation.
I find that the majority of blue-tribe girls are actually a lot more conservative than they self-identify, it's just you've got to report fealty to the big topline shibboleths and the power level will reveal itself in a few months.
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Much of that gap disappears when age is included in the analysis.
I don't really care what happens at the senior center speed dating session.
I'm interested. This would, I think, imply that old single women, whether never married or no longer married due to either divorce or death, are even more in favor of dems. Like, what's happening there? Why is that the case? What's driving it, and is it just a historical phenomenon that is likely to disappear as that generation of old ladies disappears, or is there something more fundamental happening?
Iirc divorcees are more liberal than single women as a whole, and you’d probably expect them to skew mostly middle-aged and older.
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