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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 13, 2023

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shallow 6 pack 6 figures 6 feet evaluation

These aren't shallow requirements. Wealth, health, and fitness are clear markers of actual traits that women care about for very good reasons. I think it's pretty obvious to all that whatever putative gender blurring has happened on this front, it has had basically zero impact on the value of bringing wealth, health, and fitness to a relationship.

(because who looks forward to spending her last decade of life as a widow?).

My grandmother has been a widow for nearly 40 years. It really doesn't seem to have particularly bothered her, though her marriage was a very happy one. She has children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren, and she is far from lonely.

Women inherently tend to have life expectancies a couple years higher, and also tend to marry men who are atleast somewhat older than them.

Outliving your spouse as a woman feels like a pretty consistent thing regardless of their height, thusly.

Height is not actually health or fitness in today's world. Few people are literally stunted, we're just genetically short.

Height is overrated. And when I say this, I don't mean women don't care about it much which is demonstrably not true. No, what I mean is, men keep stressing too much importance on this aspect of themselves. The outcomes can be positive if they work on areas that are within their control.

My anecdote: I'm actually below average in height, but I am fit and used to be in damn good shape before the 8 hour desk job got me craving to sink back into bed the moment I get home. I did get decent game in college, quite a few interracial successes too. Despite having been an introvert all my life, I managed to be a social butterfly. I knew someone in literally every store in the suburb I lived in, hell I don't recall even once paying for my movie tickets during my time there. And I wasn't even from the country.

And then there are two of my oldest friends. One of them is 6'2", mildly overweight, very social but too shy to ask anyone out, and somewhat below average on facial features. The other is 6'0, fit, very attractive but not too social. Both of them have well paying jobs. And both are still virgins.

You say that until you get in a fight. Yes, they still happen, and should the current order weaken significantly they'll be happening a lot more. Women are smart to select a man who is physically capable of at least standing up for himself and his family.

And equally you can say tall height isn't bad but then you get into a room with low doorways and bump your head, causing great pain/needing hospital trips in the very worst case.

If anything bumping heads is a lot more common than fights these days so the expected cost from both situations is probably the same. Plus why would you ever willingly get into a fight these days, willingly risking harm to yourself is idiotic, not brave, and in modern society pretty much every situation has a flight option available to you.

Agreed, but there's only so much to be done about such strongly evolved instincts. Money and abs still work fine as honest signals in the modern world though.

Being unable to reach the top of the fridge is an evolutionary dead end.

That's an extreme example though. A 5'6" guy can reach most places he'd have to realistically reach, with more difficulty obviously.

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