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naraburns  nihil supernum  2yr ago (text post)   3837 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for February 5, 2023

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One out of one.

Yeah same. I was both very unlucky in that it took me forever to be able to actually get a girlfriend, but also very lucky in that the first one was a keeper and I married her.

I'm surprised at the number of romantic snipers out here.

Less charitably, there's probably a larger than usual proportion of nerds here, people who are morbidly terrified of the world of dating and are both less willing to date casually and more willing to settle down with the first romantic success.

How would you phrase it? Sexual partners seems odd to me, many of mine I have no idea whether they would have made good wives or not. From what you said, I don't think your one or two night stands would have given you much insight either. Sex isn't a good indicator of seriousness. I tried to leave that to each person up determine when they'd have that judgment.

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Mrs FiveHour once described our dating process as I was like a rabbit running across a field, and she was like a hawk waiting for me to break cover before she swooped down on me and sunk her talons in.

Funny, I’m the exact opposite. I invited my partner out for coffee and she didn’t even know it was a date until I kissed her. Luckily it worked out.

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