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Culture War Roundup for the week of January 30, 2023

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A lot of them will react to "heterosexual men have the obligation to learn to read the room" the way feminists react to "women should learn to have situational awareness and exercise good judgment in choosing partners" - both get really pissed off at being "victim blamed" for being told that some negative consequences are actually avoidable.

Nope, there is no symmetry there. If Watson wanted to shoot the guy down that's entirely her right. People get pissed of at feminists acting like this is some great systemic injustice that Something Must Be Done About, not at women being afraid of being approached somewhere without a clear escape route.

not at women being afraid of being approached somewhere without a clear escape route.

This inverse of this was the many people saying at the time that they understood why he took his shot when in the elevator - it meant he didn’t have to get shot down and potentially embarassed in public. It's not likely that he chose the elevator because of the implication.

Well, but I also agree with that, it's perfectly understandable! But "understandable" doesn't mean it's not a mistake.

I don't agree. Some men may have the more nuanced take you are proposing, but even in this thread there are men expressing resentment that they're expected to "read the room" and not intentionally put women in an uncomfortable position. Multiple people have denied Watson had any reason at all to be unhappy or uncomfortable; she should have just said "no thanks" and thought nothing more about it. A more stoic mindset would certainly have produced that response, but there aren't many men who are that stoic about being put in uncomfortable situations either.