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How so?
To be explicit; I think it is probably (further) evidence he is a sociopath who will use people and deceive people to further his own ambitions.
So if he didn't have a kid, you would think it's less likely that he's a sociopath?
Yes!
Although there is still a body of evidence before the kid that would point in that direction.
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Because you are assuming that he had the kid merely for optics.
It would be like saying “I think Person X is a sociopath. He did something that generally would not be sociopathic but because I think X is a sociopath he must be doing it to hide his sociopathy.”
Well sure if you already assume the sociopathy. I’m more willing to suggest that maybe your initial assessment might be off.
I would say aesthetics rather than optics.
This sort of behavior seems to me to attempt to wear the skin suit of natural normal male desire.
To see the consequences of your union, your wife swelling with your child. New life brought forth as you participate in the continuing glory of God's creation.
This is not that. This feels more like a sacrifice to Molach or a grotesque distorted simulacra of normal healthy desire
I do think it is reasonable to question whether gay men ought to be able to use surrogates. It is one thing to adopt where a kid wasn’t going to have any family. It is another to intentionally set up a situation where a kid will not have a mom.
Don't orphans already have enough problems without being dropped into some sort of homosexual family life LARP? I'd rather be in an orphanage / orphanarium.
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I do.
This is a good point. It made me think of my own post on conspiratorial thinking and I think that I might be a victim of that in this Altman case. I'll reconsider.
Rejoice, ye mods! The spirit of the Motte lives.
Cool!
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