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Strange that an ideology of equality would be named after just one of the two parties it purports to equalize. Anyways.
Can you go into more detail on what you mean by equality? Purely equal treatment before the law? Equal outcomes by specific metrics? A complete eradication of the concept of differences between the sexes? Men and women already have the vote, so I guess that's not what you mean.
Equal outcomes by specific metrics is not equality that’s equity. I don’t know how to elaborate other than “women should have the same political, economic, and social rights as men”. Pure equal treatment before the law? Sure. A complete eradication of the differences between the sexes? I don’t think that’s possible lol, male reproductive health and female reproductive health are radically different to start.
Where exactly does your society not grant equal rights to men and women, then?
I don’t know lol, did I imply I think that? I certainly don’t want what equal rights there currently are to be eroded, like access to contraceptives and abortion, no-fault divorce laws and access to education, so that’s my focus. I can’t think of a piece of preexisting legislation that promotes inequality of men and women off the top of my head other than the draft.
This right here. Please specify where it applies. Where and in what way do women not have the same political, economic and social rights as men? What the hell does "feminism" as you define it even do? Or is it simply a maximally slim and slippery definition designed to minimize attack surface?
I don’t know, I’m not aware of any legislation in place that is explicitly not that other than the draft. What I do know is what rights there are, like the vote, access to contraceptives, no-fault divorce and access to higher education, I don’t want to see eroded. Feminism, uh…I don’t know what else to say other than “promotes equality”, so what it “does” is say “hey that’s not equal” or “that’s equal”.
So right now all it does where you live is say "that's equal"? That's it?
Yeah...? Where I live, most women are raised socially conservative by their parents. I have yet to see any of them demonstrate any signs of overall contentment in life, and I personally believe it's because of internalized misogyny. In my opinion, in the socially conservative, non-feminist world, being a woman sucks; you're basically a child and men are your parents, and your hopes and dreams are reined in by this silly notion that what makes a woman happy is being a mother. Who can possibly be content believing that about themselves? Feminism reminds women that they are equally capable of being assertive, structured, linear and individual like men, while reminding that men are equally capable of being random, inter-dependent and self conscious.
What do you say to all the studies which find correlation between marriage/children and reported happiness?
Full disclosure: I sometimes argue against them, eg by pointing out that happy people are more likely to get married. But from an opposite perspective to yours: I think men in traditional marriage are, not oppressed, exactly, but too often treated like beasts of burden, expected to do unpleasant work and provide money to women and children, without a right to expect anything in return.
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