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I'm no biologist or doctor. I'm just pretty sure that 30s-40s is well within the region in which one can still expect a lot of sex to happen, under normal circumstance.
More generally, your partner and yourself will both age. Maybe the one ages more gracefully than the other thanks to superior genetics, in which case yeah, unless the difference is truly extreme it's just plain good sense to live with it if that's the whole of the problem. But obviously one's standards should adjust themselves with age and the passage of time.
What's unreasonable to expect is that your partner just lets herself go like a sack of potatoes and you tolerate it indefinitely.
This...probably doesn't provide much value to you as far as answers go, but it's close to everything I have to say on the subject.
She hasn't really let herself go. Small amount of weight gain, but nothing out of the ordinary. I just don't want to have sex with her. I can't blame her for that. I shouldn't be here in the first place.
"I'm getting 3 out of 10, elbows too pointy" vibes, unless there's a serious facial deformity involved.
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I didn't mean to imply as much. Sorry, I just piggybacked off of your topic to ride my hobby horse.
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