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No, openly flirting gets you a lecture about straight guys always assuming they're not queer, or rates of sexual assault, and engaging with a "Men, Amirite?" quip with anything other than soy appeasement immediately labels you as an anti-feminist chud trump-voting something-or-other, with a possible reference to internet bogeymen from 2016.
Do you have an example conversation here? If the women are literally saying "men amirite" in response to any kinda normal conversation starter, it does seem like a weird crowd.
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I don't know, I've spoken with euros and some north americans and never experienced such things. This was again in bars and nightclubs.
It's possible that I'm just unlucky enough to live adjacent to the art/punk/hipster neighborhood of a major metro area. It has the most pronouns and trannies per capita in the entire midwest. I also move in geek/gamer circles, and like short haircuts.
it is rough man, you genuinely are being nice and the girls likely are used to being around rude motherfuckers, so even if you just act nice, they probably think you are trying to flirt or are being rude to you for not flirting.
I like short hair on women too, the last girl I was into was a short haired reactionary. I would highly suggest that you pick up the book of yareally and consider cold approaching. You dont have to do it every night for hours, 2 nights on the weekend plus field reports would be of immense help. I was a complete chode, at 21, I had my heart ripped by this girl with short hair. A poster on themotte suggested the book of yareally to me.
Book of yareally and sex god method are great starting points. This stuff changed my life and it will help you. Also meditate regularly if you dont, in case you encounter rude cunts like them again, you not being phased by their snark would make them feel worse and you better. Girls want validation, you having ice in your veins (maybe you already do) would deflate them. I have encountered rude ones too, my advice comes from personal experience.
Do post about your female issues here, most advice here is super helpful, cant overstate this enough.
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