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The causality arrow is not unidirectional.
Your desire for sex will increase your odds of a good-paying job, house, muscles, etc... It will especially increase your odds of meeting women.
Maybe instead of looking to decrease libido you should try to increase it? Despite the messaging, men and women both prefer men who have strong agency. This is deeply tied in with sexual libido.
In the mean time try to get over your shame at masturbation. But curb your porn use if you feel yourself getting addicted.
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This is a tale as old as time and saltpeter. Your reasoning is sound I suppose (get rid of the urge then I can focus on being a chad) but only if the world worked in considerably more simple ways. Start messing around with hormones and you dance with the devil, and, to quote Joaquin Phoenix in 8mm, "When you dance with the devil the devil don't change. The devil changes you."
You won't magically switch off the sex urge and then still have the same vigor. The surging testosterone is meant to man you up, to use a well-worn, much-maligned, and favorite phrase. So use it.
A good-paying job and a house and muscles don't just turn up at a certain age. You have to work consistently and tirelessly. There are many, many resources (more than in the History of the world) to help you toward one or all of these goals. Self-castration (even if chemical) seems an ass backwards strategy.
Don't get me wrong. I do not look back with warm nostalgia on my days as an 18-yr old who thought about sex nearly constantly (I really should have put more effort into swimming). And the slow lessening of libido as I get older is not entirely unwelcome (lessening, but by no means eradication). But that's the natural course of life in a way.
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How is it a waste? You should use that energy and drive to improve yourself so that you can attract a mate. Killing it seems counterproductive as it would likely passify you further.
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Just FYI, even if you succeed in killing your sex drive, you'll still like and desire girls.
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