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Wellness Wednesday for August 28, 2024

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>back on Hinge

I know apps are terrible, but the counterfactual for a long time was "nothing at all", which didn't work very well either. Wish me luck, I guess?

Are there speed dating events in your area? shuffle has been alright the twice I've done it.

twice

can't have worked that well eyy

No but for real that's something I never considered. Thanks. My first reaction was "damn, I'd feel like a loser showing up alone" and then I thought about it for like three more seconds.

I'm a big fan of speed dating, but it's not for everyone. I've got friends that were happy to meet girls out at bars but for some reason shied away from speed dating or otherwise didn't get good results.

Meetup singles groups are another good alternative where you can vet potential partners in real life. I always find in real life opportunities to be better as you don't risk wasting time investing hours pre-meet only to disqualify them the instant you see them in person..

I never had any luck on apps, but lately I've had more success talking to chicks at bars. I think a crucial ingredient here is I'm going with 1-3 other guys who are trying the same thing. That and talking to everyone, not just pretty chicks.

I could do that logistically, now I think about it, but I don't like the bar environment very much. But maybe I should. Glad it's working for you, anyhow.

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