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4d ago
So far I've gotten a good view of the bridge. Going back for a bike ride sounds like good fun.
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4d ago
Ended up walking from around Folsom St to the Presidium and nearby beach. Got to watch the sunset on the golden gate bridge. I didn't realize how damn big it was until a container ship went underneath.
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5d ago
Just rolled into San Fransisco. Got no plans for the next few days, what's some fun stuff to check out? Lower/no budget ideally
falling-star
8d ago
It was the "Kawaii Krochet" Sloth DIY Crochet kit. Thanks for the rec I will strongly consider.
falling-star
9d ago
Side note: Unpack the word submissive. Lots more girls are interested in being their man's pet than their man's maid.
falling-star
9d ago
Curious what language and sub field you're working with. I've found wildly different performance on similar tasks across different languages. Best performance is definitely typescript. Python is alright. Flutter can be a complete joke. Primarily use Claude Opus for everything. I think it's made me mountains more productive in typescript.
falling-star
9d ago
Been teaching myself how to crochet. Right now I'm working on a scarf. I had bought a """beginners""" crochet a stuffed animal kit a while back. Instructions were pretty much impossible so I'm starting with something easier.
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11d ago
Right now three. For the next few months I can probably push it to 4/5.
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11d ago
I'm thinking about changing my gym routine. I previously did the stronglifts 5x5 program (squats, bench, rows, overhead press, deadlifts). I was getting good results out of that for a bit until I started getting back pain and plateauing. I've started trying my friend's routine, which is 4x8 of lots of different isolation exercises.
I'm not sure now which routine to go with. The new routine is a lot faster. My body gets a lot sorer, but I don't feel as exhausted energy wise. There's lots of contradictory info on what types of exercises are good for what. I'm primarily trying to get big and promote testosterone production. So compounds or isolation?
falling-star
22d ago
Take Sudafed daily. Eat something spicy with every meal. Best way to delete congestion. I find curing congestion often helps with getting rid of coughs.
falling-star
1mo ago
Please do the effort post.
falling-star
1mo ago
Can we please wait until there's at least a suspect in custody before using the Brown shooting to support your narrative?
falling-star
1mo ago
This happened in my neighborhood. The streets are empty and dead. People are scared.
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1mo ago
Life Status: We're so Back
A while ago I posted that my startup failed. To cut a really long story short, everyone we talked to said no to fundraising. One of my partners went on a longshot campaign to change one specific investor's mind. Against all common sense and expectations it worked. The old dream is back from the dead.
Soon I'll be in San Fransisco for another accelerator. Feels like going to college twice tbh. Down to meet up with any motte bros. Would love advice, lore, suggestions on things to do and places to go. I'll be there for a few months.
I posted earlier about my plan to get a gf via lifting and getting involved in the rave scene. I had a buddy that heard my plan and decided to do it with me, hitting pretty much the same gym days and events. He recently got a girl. I'm taking it as validation that this is a good plan and I just need to stick with it.
I've barely gained any weight, but my body is looking much more defined. I don't feel dissapointed anymore when I look in the mirror. There was a party where all the guys ended up competing doing stuff like pullups, wrestling, etc. I put in a good showing and it felt like all those gym hours were worthwhile.
Advice time:
My squat's stalled around 240 lbs. I've been getting pain in my lower back. I think it's due to me arching it to avoid bending forward. I've tried consciously trying to not, but it hasn't worked. Any tips/tricks/exercises?
Thinking of doing a short run of testosterone while in San Fran to increase my body mass. The idea would be a one time intervention rather that a lifetime thing. Any experiences, thoughts, guidance?
Help. My ass and thighs are getting too powerful and I can't fit into 90% of my jeans anymore. What do?
falling-star
3mo ago
I gave up on my previous startup. I'm trying to do some direct to consumer AI bullshit mobile app now. I didn't get paid for a while at the last business and my savings are almost out. Going to have to find a part time job to sustain myself. I'm bumming pretty much anything I can off my friends at this point. At least they care about me.
I'm starting to recover my gains at the gym. That feels nice. Between that and trying to eat healthy, I have something holding me together. I'm not really thinking or feeling much, even though I should. That was my life's work for years. My mentality now is "just keep walking, if you stop you die."
I'm starting to take stimulants again. They're pretty bad for my mental state and social skills. Once I get decent progress towards an MVP on this app I'll get off them. If any motte bros have experience in consumer mobile apps or game design I'd appreciate the chance to pick your brains.
A few weeks ago I had the thought that I was ready to start dating. I guess I'm mentally ready, but no money is rough. I do feel way better about my sex appeal developing a mobile app than a b2b healthcare whatever. Once I get some part time work I'll finally pay for professional pictures and get on the apps. Hopefully I don't degrade too much by then.
falling-star
3mo ago
My startup may or may not be falling apart. We've been completely out of money for a bit, and the last fund raise process is almost over with minimal results. We're only waiting to hear back from a few more funds. Darkly funny this all happened right after we signed multiple contracts worth tens of millions. Maybe healthcare just is a cursed industry.
I have an idea for another business. I'm pretty much out of money though. I guess some sort of part time or short term job is in order.
Been losing a lot of progress at the gym while dealing with this. I'm doing my best to damage control the decline.
falling-star
4mo ago
Hey I'm reading that too! Good book.
falling-star
4mo ago
How do I into Instagram?
I finally cracked to social pressure and made an instagram. Never had public facing social media before. What are the etiquettes and best practices I should be following? I hear all this stuff about who liked what, who follows who, and I have no experience.
My broader goal here is to build a good social life in the EDM scene and get a raver gf.
falling-star
4mo ago
Slow and steady progress at the gym. Now I can squat two plates and bench one plate. In the past week I suddenly got physical growth to match the strength gains. I feel so much more confident in general. A few pounds of muscle on my bones made a world of difference. I guess now I'll keep going and see how far I can climb this hill.
I want to do more self improvement things, but I'm running up against my time and energy budget. I'm hoping to fix my sleep soon and get more energy that way. Trying to cut down on doomscrolling, but this Charlie Kirk saga is making it hard. I've made more of an effort to talk to and dance with girls at events. No bites yet but I'm putting shots on goal.
General encouragement to all the bros and lurkers out there: There's a lot of low hanging fruit for making your life better. Find just one thing now, and you'll thank yourself in a few weeks.
falling-star
4mo ago
The red flag for being really magnesium deficient in my case was tightness or discomfort around my jaw. I noticed this when using drugs that depleted magnesium, and it was always immediately fixed by taking magnesium.
falling-star
5mo ago
Shoot man, I was just there yesterday, I woulda met up. I had a good time wandering the High Line in Manhattan. If you care about architecture it's basically a site seeing tour for that. There's a great quality yet cheap Japanese place called KENKA on Saint Marks Place. $7 for a bowl of hearty ramen and $7 for a 20oz bottle of beer with good vibes. Otherwise don't forget to check out central park. It really does live up to the hype.
falling-star
5mo ago
Hello Motte Friends!
A while ago I posted about a plan to get a girlfriend. Life threw up a lot of curveballs, so I ended up holding on the plan to push online dating. I didn't completely slack though. Here's the stuff I said I'd do, versus what actually happened.
- Lifting: Have been doing Stronglifts 5x5 mostly consistently since my last post. My friend is my gym buddy, and we keep each other consistent. I squatted 210lbs this week. I've always been skinny (currently 5'11 155lbs), so even these beginner gains are making me look better. It feels nice to be more physically capable.
- More fashionable clothes: Got those and a better haircut. I'm getting compliments on my appearance.
- Skincare: Couldn't stick with it. Seemed to improve my complexion the day of, but not over the medium term. A friend suggested new products, I'll make another attempt with those soon.
- Professional photos: Didn't happen, temporary money troubles
- Contacts: Didn't happen, money troubles
- Read Models: @crntwx suggested this. I read about a third of the book so far, have been trying to change my thought process and self perception in line with it's suggestions. It's a real crusade 😂, real "draw the rest of the owl", but worth doing.
- Sleep: Honestly pretty bad in terms of hours and schedule, probably the number one thing hurting my charisma.
- General habits: Spending WAAAY too much time on the internet doomscrolling, number two drag on my charm.
Advice Request:
- I get a big improvement in mental state after lifting, but it's after work 3 times a week. I used to improve my mental state by running, but my legs can't handle that and squats at the same time. What could I do on off days/daily?
falling-star
5mo ago
Hello Motte Friends!
I've been getting more involved in my local rave scene as part of my effort to get a girlfriend. This post is part an anthropology post like @self_made_human's, part progress report, and part discussing strategy
What the scene is like
- The motto is Peace, Love, Unity, Respect (PLUR). A general attitude of being accepting, vulnerable, and spreading positive vibes prevails. Drug use is common, but not nearly as universal as outsiders think. It only takes a minority of people to completely change a groups vibe (IMO for the better). Contact high is real.
- The accepting attitude means you get a wide range of people and subcultures. You'll often see PhDs and tradesmen chatting. It's extremely internet influenced. I tell people the main way to tell if an event is a rave or just a club night is the presence of animal ears. God bless neko girls.
- The music and dancing is nominally the main reason everyone's there, but half the action is floating around and chatting with people off the dance floor. Most people are way more open to conversation and connection than normal.
- There are different tiers of events (duh). The biggest ones have the most single girls, but they're so loud and crowded it's hard to talk to them. The smallest ones are mostly attended by the people that go to every event, almost all the girls there are taken. There's a real goldilocks zone in between the two.
- Lots of events are invite only or minimally advertised. The people that go to every event are often part of the crew for these. These are often ideal places to meet people. Almost every event has an after party. Getting invited usually requires knowing someone on the crew.
What I did, how it turned out
- I went to every event I could and brought a polaroid camera. I went around, walking up to random people and offering to take people's pictures. The acceptance rate was around 95%.
- This almost always lead to a follow up conversation and me becoming friendly with their circle for the rest of the night. I would be gifts or invites to other events.
- I tried using this as an in to talk to the beautiful girls in elaborate costumes I saw at every event. They all ended up asking for photos with their boyfriends, which I obliged. Rule of thumb I learned was the more complex the outfit, the more likely they're taken.
- In terms of romantic results, I made out with one girl after taking her picture. That didn't go anywhere after I learned she was poly. I used polaroid as an icebreaker on behalf of my friends, resulting in one hook up and one date. Girls who I'm not interested in sometimes flirt with me.
- I made friendly with one particular crew to the point I'm invited to every event they're involved with + after parties. In that social circle way more people know me and my name than the other way around. Is this the social proof thing people talk about?
- I got cool with their organizer, who unironically knows hundreds of people. I asked him to introduce me to potential partners and he agreed. Hasn't happened yet but he says he's looking.
Advice/Difficulties
- I don't know how to dance with other people, especially how to dance up to a girl to get her attention. Any advice here? I often find myself dancing faster than everyone else.
- At these events I'm talking to a lot of people, but it stays surface level, light hearted. I don't really know how to flirt. I've been told I'm attractive when the conversation gets passionate or philosophical, but I don't know how to guide a conversation there.
falling-star
5mo ago
I'm a cum boy. I think there's at least 5 other regular posters that are too.
I've been starting $PRESTIGIOUS_ACCELERATOR recently. It's really surreal. I did an accelerator before, and while the form is the same, the sheer amount of wealth and power and potential I'm around is next level. I keep whipsawing between "hell yeah I made it" to "I am only here through stupid dumb luck". Deserved or not, this skinny kid from Massachusetts is in the heart of silicone valley.
All my dating/self improvement/social maxing bullshit seems like it started to bear fruit right before I left town. I've had two separate girls propose hookups. Wasn't super into them so I declined. On a few other occasions I got numbers from girls I consider extremely attractive, then fumbled the texting part. I'm extremely heartened by this, I'm fucking up further down the "sales" pipeline. That means the previous steps are working. Not really sure if I'll try to date out of town, but I'm going to keep grinding the gym and trying to otherwise improve my appearance.
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