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Feminists give horrible advice like this all the time. I’m not sure why they do this; most seem to think there’s a noble lie involved.
I 100% guarantee you this woman would find an offer of menstrual products creepy and off putting, and that she will not talk about her period IRL any more than she would talk about shitting or blowing her nose.
Right; if the boy wants to get friend-zoned, he can offer to go into the boy's bathroom and get them. Happening to have one is going to get him creep-zoned, unless he's a member of Junior Seal Team Six and explains he needs them to stop the bleeding from the frequent bullet wounds he treats.
Totally tangential: Tampons absorb blood but don't assist in clotting. They're more like a sponge, which will soak up and expand but not staunch the flow. Whenever I read about this strategy of using tampons in trauma situations I wonder if it's really done regularly and if so, why. Pressure from wrapping with a towel or something seems like it would be far more effective in preventing blood loss. Unless the idea is-- as in when a tampon is used for its designed purpose--just to prevent a sanguineous mess.
Menstrual discharge, absent menorrhagia or some other issue, is typically of a predictably finite amount, whereas an open wound will keep bleeding until hemostasis.
Sorry for the derail. Anybody who knows about this plz feel free to enlighten me.
Edit: paging @JTarrou and/or @self_made_human
Indeed, during the beginning of the Ukraine war, families of Russian soldiers were sending them tampons when bandages were both not provided by the military and also running out of stock. Terrible idea, it's the opposite of what you want for staunching a bleed.
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