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Culture War Roundup for the week of June 10, 2024

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Is this what people are hearing at home? Because I could imagine it as an artifact of, well, the NYT comments.

As for the last question—get him or her to go outside. Log off. Dating is fun and so is the rest. Who will they trust? Twitter, or their lying endocrine system?

Dating is fun

Meh.

As for the last question—get him or her to go outside. Log off. Dating is fun and so is the rest. Who will they trust? Twitter, or their lying endocrine system?

Both. Hormones wear off, pop-psychology / red-pill psy-ops about why your significant other is an abusive narcissist / gold-digging hypergamist do not. We do have our natural instincts on our side, but there's a whole bunch of stuff working against us as well.

It is true that people can get radicalized and ‘trapped’ in the internet if very online. But yeah, once in the real world and very regularly interacting with the opposite sex socially, biology is going to take over.

very regularly interacting with the opposite sex socially

But this doesn't normally happen in the modern world, and I'd argue it was never the norm ever anywhere.

That just gets you over the first hump, you still have to make people want to stay together long-term. I don't even think it's a question of being very online, the culture is full of weird ideas that encourage people to hit reset and try their luck again, over working out their issues with the person they're with.

I'm not saying it's hopeless. Like I said there are things working to our advantage, but I think it's a terrible idea to let these ideas float around the culture uncontested.

Twitter delenda est.