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You mean "what cultural attitudes about consent to sex look like". I guarantee you these kids are not getting their ideas from sex ed, and I guarantee you that if sex ed addresses consent these kids don't listen to it.
Look, I went through fairly high budget abstinence+ sex ed. It didn't work on the kids that it wasn't going to work on- as it turns out, schools actually do a remarkably bad job of changing social attitudes. You can't educate teenaged boys out of what rap songs educate them in to, at least not in an institutional setting. In person mentorship maybe, but nobody with feminist attitudes wants to do it.
Isn't sex education, whether it's done efficiently or not, mainly about 1. contraceptives 2. pregnancy 3. periods 4. STDs? Covering just those four subjects is enough of a daunting task in itself, I'm sure. This notion that sex education needs to mostly focus on proper norms of consent has to be a rather recent phenomenon, mostly confined to feminist activist circles.
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Yes, that is what I am referring to by 'how bad sex education is'.
Strong disagree. You do have to hit them younger before the culture has fully established other ideas, but if the curriculum is handled well and it's the first time they're hearing about it in a realistic setting with enough detail, you can form their first impressions on the topic, or heavily influence their existing impressions.
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