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Wellness Wednesday for March 27, 2024

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Anyone have thoughts on the Huberman article run by NY Magazine?

Didn't read it (and not going to) and only saw Meghan Murphy go off on the guy on Twitter, so only 2:

He apparently was dating 5+ women simultaneously, letting each of them believe he was only dating them, and therefore it would be safe to have unprotected sex.

My first reaction is: why did he need to lie about this? He lives in the polyamory capital of the world? Surely plenty of women would be down?

Have we really gone so far down the rabbit hole that the only moral lens we are allowed to look at things through is consent?

The second thought I have is, from the reactions to this and to a similar controversy that happened a while back (some bloke said he's doing polyamory in his tinder profile, but was otherwise heavily signaling "ready to settle down" and some ladies did not read the fine print), I'm getting the feeling that this scenario is the female-equivalent of divorce court horror stories, or at least it seems to bring up similar feelings of existential dread.

Have we really gone so far down the rabbit hole that the only moral lens we are allowed to look at things through is consent?

I mostly like Huberman but I think this is bad behavior. As per the article, I can't really imagine banging 5+ women and letting them each believe I'm exclusively with them (through either bald-faced lies or lies of omission) so that they feel safe being raw dogged.