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Another one I've heard is the matches are of a poor quality in the sense that people don't like the people they're meeting up with even if they look good/decent which leads to cycling through a massive amount of people, which is exhausting and dispiriting.
I've not heard of your complaint as a recurring issue. I wonder if is a Chicago thing or a you thing.
That's a woman problem on dating apps. A man getting that many dates with women he doesn't want to date long-term but look good/decent is a successful dater.
It's an issue for moderately attractive (composite) men as well.
Believe it or not but men get tired of meeting new women as well. Not in the sense that they're uninterested in the sex but all the other shit. Then it turns into a grind of going through tons of people and the sinking realisation that your market value might not be as high as you would like, despite managing to score regularly.
People say that men are more ready to date down than women but that is a truth with modifications. For example, I strongly doubt that any of my friends would seriously date a woman without at least a bachelor in a decent field, or they'd have to be spectacularly attractive and even then I'm not so sure.
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I've heard of men who swipe right on everything then report disappointment at dating many women less attractive than they'd like, but they don't want to risk possible ego damage by swiping only on attractive women and seeing few or no matches.
Shrug. I see matches with attractive women, they just never say anything. Or agree to dates then flake, as I said above. Once more, dates actually happening would be a huge achievement for me.
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