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Culture War Roundup for the week of January 1, 2024

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No law is perfect to the letter. The spirit of the rules would certainly prohibit backhanded insinuations via second helpings just as it prevents backhanded compliments--in fact I'd argue that clause does cover such a situation in letter, but that is debatable. Nonetheless, calling someone fat isn't okay just because you don't use the word fat.

The spirit of the rules would certainly prohibit backhanded insinuations via second helpings just as it prevents backhanded compliments

No, it doesn't. The spirit of the rules is to maintain Grandma's standards while not being outwardly aggressive about it.

Interesting take. Nonetheless, we should acknowledge that the letter of the law prohibits implied insults, does it not? One such insult is illustrated, but it seems obvious there are innumerable forms such an insult could take. So we are left with two propositions: either the clause applies to all such implications, or it applies specifically and only to compliments given directly to an individual directly and exempts other forms of breach not specifically mentioned. The latter would support your premise of "secretly evil", I suppose, but it makes me wonder why outlaw backhanded compliments in one specific use case, and not outlaw, for example, complimenting the horse fatty rides riding for its perseverance? Is it that complimenting the mount is less obvious somehow? I think not. Thus I'm forced to believe implied insults, of whatever form, are prohibited by the letter of the law.

Although the question of the spirit of the law seems moot, given the explicit callouts in the text, I'm curious if there are other laws which you believe have a spirit diametrically opposed to their text? If we want people to stop at a given intersection, should we install Yield signs, or no signs? I don't quite understand how this works.

Interesting take. Nonetheless, we should acknowledge that the letter of the law prohibits implied insults, does it not?

This sort of etiquette didn't have a "letter of the law"; it was a living code created and sustained by mostly implicit negotiations among its practicioners. Miss Manners had an advice column; she was not authoritative and crucially, she would tell lies if her code of manners required them.

Indeed. The world doesn't work without rules enforcement. It can either be through social condemnation, or police force.