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Culture War Roundup for the week of November 27, 2023

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As a victim of MGM I have always found complaints about condoms to be wild, I can hardly tell the difference, so maybe you are onto something.

I had the procedure done for (in hindsight, unnecessary) medical reasons, in early childhood but not so early I can't remember it, and I know for a fact that my glans became less sensitive, since for the first few weeks post-op the mere sensation of it rubbing against fabric was unbearable. I still can feel the superiority of not using a condom, even using the thinnest latex you can get here.

Oh well, at least it gets me more head, I've had a number of women tell me that it was a relief compared to the finely marinated stench of smegma.

Oh well, at least it gets me more head, I've had a number of women tell me that it was a relief compared to the finely marinated stench of smegma.

Whenever stuff like this comes up I'm left wondering, who the fuck doesn't wash his dick?

Quite a few men, sadly.

He lives in India, hygiene norms might be different there and a significant portion of the population doesn't have running water.

Datapoint of one, but I live in the US where my parents were of the "buy the kid books in lieu of having a puberty discussion", and the books definitely talked about needing to wash under your foreskin, so I'm assuming it's the default here for uncircumcised English-speakers.

I've heard similar complaints made by Western women about their men, not that I'm in a position to compare base-rates.

I don't recall ever being explicitly instructed to do that myself, though it would be a bit moot.

At any rate, these guys were certainly capable of accessing running water, I wasn't dating women from the ghetto. Men can be slobs, and unlike a stinky armpit, they can get away with it until..

He lives in India

I'm not sure about that.

Eh? I do, well I'm there right now. I've got yet another set of exams to give, after which I'll enter training to be a shrink. I could have left earlier, I've gotten my GMC license.

Sorry, I'm not tracking it, you have been in Britain for a while and I figured you might have made another temporary hop.

I can't expect you to know exactly where I am haha, it's no big deal!