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Culture War Roundup for the week of November 6, 2023

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It wasn’t that long ago that Aella’s question would’ve been taken as an edgy “tits and beer liberal” style joke. I’m pretty sure I recall some mid 2000s maybe early 2010s hospital sitcom/drama with an episode with the same basic premise, just the kid was asking the doctors rather than make a wish.

Edit: I was thinking of “The Good Doctor” s3e7. A 12 year old kid that’s about to have his eyes surgically removed gets taken around by his doctors to do some bucket list stuff.

One of the things he asks to do is to see some IRL titties while he still can. So the doctors take him to a strip but the bouncer refuses entry cause he’s a minor. So one of the doctors in sympathy flashes her tits at the kid right before his surgery.

This actually came out way more recently than I was thinking, it first aired in 2019.

There's a similar subplot in Scrubs.

I believe someone recently was commenting on an episode of House where that exact plot took place; if I recall, the teenager in that episode was a young girl, and all she wanted from the (male) doctor was a kiss, rather than full-on sex. Is that what you’re referring to?

And she gets the kiss too - https://youtube.com/watch?v=Ijuzvl8tv8k Later in the episode, the other doctors make fun of Chase (the adult male doctor who did the kissing) but the episode's narrative frames it as a good thing.

totally forgot about this, but now remember it so clearly. did not seem like a big issue at this time for this idea, perhaps because Chase was hesitant and it took the entire episode to get to this ending? Because it’s just a kiss? Because the requester has the profile of a typical “victim” (young underaged girl)?”