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PaperclipPerfector  1yr ago (text post)   3819 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for September 10, 2023

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Son, if you want confidence with women, it seems like you should practice confidence with women instead of this other thing that you think might be correlated.

If you struggle, I suggest going to a social dance put on by a hobbyist dance group and assigning yourself the goal of ask a woman to dance. The culture assumes men ask women, it’s low stakes and beginner friendly, and most of them women there are there because they like dancing and not to meet chad so if you’re bad with women, it doesn’t matter too much. There’s undoubtedly alternatives, of course. That’s just what I can suggest off the top of my head.

Unironically, I have a lot of female friends. I am reasonably sure that most women would be OK dancing with Quasimodo but not going on a date with him...

I doubt you’re as ugly as you say you are. Try having more confidence.

What sorts of people are your female friends? Do they not invite you to events with their other female friends?

Risking your life is a great way to gain respect... from men. In which case it might work, if what he needs is more self-respect

I've heard it said that if Hocks worked, Hocking would be normal. I believe instead that Hocks work...but that the cost of Hocks, in blood and treasure, is too damn high. Hocks are like a yacht: if you have to ask, you can't afford it. I've seen drug-addicted combat veterans dying of liver failure that had girlfriends; I haven't seen non-veterans with those kinds of medical conditions and girlfriends. The Hock is an imperfect, poor man's substitute for war.

Have you considered enlisting instead?

Uncle Sam doesn't take autists.

This is untrue - or at least was ~20 years ago. I know a former Marine who is very obviously on the spectrum.

I am betting that he lacked a formal diagnosis.

You’d be surprised at how much recruiters are happy to overlook if you don’t announce it and your ASVAB is nearly maxed.

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