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Thesis statement : Targetting-based 3 pronged model for conceptualizing negative emotions
Placeholder comment about a rough new (reinventing the wheel, or just bad at a google?) model for handling negative emotions. If this gets any interest, I'll try to make a longer comment on it.
Single-source past derived negative emotions can be divided along 3 separable lines:
Grief or a sense of loss - untargetted
Regret - Self-targeted or action targeted negative emotion
Resentment - targeted towards someone
I have recently tried to verbalize the breakdown of grief/regret/resentment that I am feeling when a negative emotion comes up. In my experience, without this model, people can often act out grief by misconstruing it as resentment, and destroying relationships. Similarly, some people will fall into un-identifiable sadness (grief) when in reality they real issue has to do with resentment (and needing to establish boundaries from an individual).
I have found this model to be quite useful for my own issues. Lmk if this sounds useful for you guys too.
If you steal this idea, please give credit. If someone else has done this better, please link.
I was thinking along these lines in regard to anxiety, which is a targeted vector. What it is targeting seems to at its core be imagined events happening or not happening. And I imagine this to be a core emotion in which these other negative emotions are used to "manage" it to various degrees of success.
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