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Does this happen to cis people?
That seems like it would be very weird, and would indicate something was off; usually as a way of bullying the person and mocking them. In which case, surely they would be bothered. But people are generally very accurate about guessing gender outside of a few edge cases.
I can think of a couple of very brief interactions in bad viewing conditions where someone was misgendered, and both parties were embarrassed. This hasn't happened to me even once, as an average looking woman.
It's also hard to innocently misgender a person to their face, so I think these were entirely a misapplication of sir/ma'am.
It does when they're young. Never bothered me in the slightest.
Not necessarily. A lot of attempts at bullying are kind of pathetic, and are easy to laugh off.
So assume it's not innocent. Or better yet, don't assume, from now on please refer to me as ma'am, and see if I'm bothered.
Good for you.
Traditionally, misgendering - calling man a woman or girl - was considered very seriously and treated as mortal insult.
Concern about proper gender etiquette is not something invented by LGBTQ+ activists.
Yeah, but for someone who holds some variant of the belief in the equality of sexes it makes no sense to take it as an insult.
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