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PaperclipPerfector  1yr ago (text post)   3261 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 9, 2023

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I am single and childless but surrounded by parents, and my number one take away is this- don't get neurotic. Your kids will probably be fine. If you are a motteizan I assume you're smart and have half-decent judgement and the income to buy your way out of the most obvious problems, so your kids will probably be fine. Just don't get neurotic about it- you can worry about worst case scenarios until you're blue in the face, the only effect it'll have is to make you miserable and stressed out. Remember that most of the things pitched to parents to worry about are not particularly likely, especially if you are a decently conscientious person who doesn't live in impoverished squalor, so listen to common sense advice and don't get overstressed about whatever scenario. Your kid probably has IQ points to spare and will have decent life outcomes, you don't have to get into a grindset. If you do the only thing it'll do is make you miserable and stress your kid out.

I currently (could all change when the kid comes) subscribe to Caplan's philosophy. Pretty much if you feed them and don't beat them they'll probably turn out how they're were going to turn out. Both of us do feel like our parents kind of left some things out and we got a bit of a late start on some things so hopefully we can influence our kids at least a little.

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