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Wellness Wednesday for July 5, 2023

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I don't know how gauche this is, but I wanted to register that my life is going great on pretty much all fronts.

I've gotten much more serious about exercising a ton over the last couple of years and it seems to be readily paying off despite my advancing age in terms of chronic pain and general athletic capabilities. I've been in a relationship with someone I'm completely enamored with, and still struggling to see where our relationship's stress faults might be (only one I was worried about early on was her veganism and my near-complete-oppositism but she doesn't seem to care). My offline career continues advancing at a steady pace, as has my online "career". This plus the relationship does mean I've been much busier, but aside from missing the days where I could indulge in 15-hour video game binging sessions with abandon, I'm ok.

Overall I've just been much happier and relaxed, even when encountering adversity or stressful situations. I'm not sure how much of my current satisfaction is reliant on external factors like health and financial comfort, but I'm also not sure if I should care. I'll keep enjoying it regardless.

I’m also dating a vegan! We’ve been together for 3.5 years and are doing great. I’m actually much slimmer and feel better now that I eat less meat.

Nice to read a positive life update on this thread. My girlfriend is a pescatarian, while I am a meat eater. Overall, it’s working fairly well. I will generally make a Caesar salad and grill chicken on the side so we are both able to eat dinner without having to cook two separate meals. And if we go out to eat, she will still eat seafood, which is always nice to get at a good restaurant. The only problem I have is she doesn’t cook meat dinners. She’s down to make me a Turkey sandwich, for example, but steak and eggs or pork chops are off the table.

It’s definitely good to have that conversation early tho about what your lady is willing or isn’t willing to do in the kitchen. I would not envy living the rest of my life with a woman who won’t make me a Turkey sandwich.

It’s definitely good to have that conversation early tho about what your lady is willing or isn’t willing to do in the kitchen.

And in the bedroom.

My girlfriend already lets me eat cheese and salami in her bed.

As long as it's not crackers, it's all fine. I hate crumbs in my bed.

The only problem I have is she doesn’t cook meat dinners. She’s down to make me a Turkey sandwich

Is this because she doesn't consider turkey to be meat, or she doesn't consider making a sandwich to be cooking?

It has more to do with the texture of the meat. She prefers not to handle raw meat if she can avoid it.

It's good to hear that some of us are doing well, and I look forward to the day I can say the same

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