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Porque no los dos? In such cases, I'm open to "she's trying a cash grab" and "he's a bit slimy" when it comes to celebs. Some people, yeah, you'll go "come off it, he/she is not that type of person" but others it'll be "okay, I could see this happening".
Oh certainly, my larger take during that conversation was “Everyone in Hollywood is a scumbag, I’m sure Jonathan Majors is involved in all sorts of grimy shit, and I wasn’t going to watch his stupid movies either way.” It’s obviously tawdry that a man with his level of resources and opportunities, someone who had the pinnacle of career success at his fingertips, threw it all away because he couldn’t restrain himself from getting involved in shameful affairs with loose women. (Many such cases.) I just don’t think he’s guilty of the particularly lurid allegations that were leveled against him. Not like I’m invested in this because “Phew, now I can be a Jonathan Majors fan again.” I hadn’t even heard of the guy before the allegations came out, because due to my intimate experiences with them, I fucking hate actors.
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The "Porque no los dos?" position amounts to washing your hands of the facts of the matter and treating both positions as equally valid. Which is equivalent to supporting the least-just position. Majors may or may not be a bit slimy, but he apparently not only didn't do what he was accused of, but was wronged himself (besides the false accusation) by the woman in question. Taking the position that the consequences he suffered as a result of these false accusations are OK because "he's a bit slimy" is not some middle high ground, but siding with injustice.
If he didn't do it then he should not be punished. But in a "he said, she said" situation where I don't know either party and there are allegations about both sides being less than great, I'm not going to pick a side and jump on it - see Amber Heard versus Johnny Depp. If I don't know enough, I will entertain "maybe he is a slimeball" and "maybe she's a gold-digger" as potential explanations until more information to settle the question one way or the other comes out.
And it is possible "he's a slimeball, but he didn't do this" or "she's a gold-digger, but it did happen that way" are true.
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