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Small-Scale Question Sunday for June 25, 2023

Do you have a dumb question that you're kind of embarrassed to ask in the main thread? Is there something you're just not sure about?

This is your opportunity to ask questions. No question too simple or too silly.

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“Are we the baddies?”

Ghosting her is better than bullying. Straight up asking her to leave is better than either.

We are definitely the baddies.

I think I agree with that rank ordering

[asking her to leave] > [ghosting] > [bullying]

But I think the incentives are all screwy. Anyone who asks her to leave is probably going to get reported by her. The default behavior going forward will probably be to ghost her a bit. If someone tries to be "nice" and "inclusive" and make sure she is not ghosted, she will probably end up getting bullied by the people that are tired of dealing with her.

I'm in the league to play a sport, have fun, and stay in shape. I'm not here to be someone's group therapy outlet. There is a sliding scale of selfish <-> selfless. And I am admittedly much more on the selfish side when it comes to inter-personal interactions.