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Who's "they all"? The LGBT movement is primarily by and for the edification of straight white women (I don't think the view that gays are driving the current movement makes any sense whatsoever, Threeper claims notwithstanding); so it makes sense that occupations (like 'public school teacher') that are overwhelmingly female would be all in.
Once you understand that, everything else kind of falls into place. It's now possible to understand the attitude that these things aren't harmful, because to a modern straight white woman, they aren't- stripteases are what X (usually a woman) does to seduce Y (usually a man), and in that light, claiming this somehow damages or degrades the Y doesn't make sense (and why the operative word to condemn this is a comparatively pithy "sexualization"). BDSM parades (being a larger version of this) are viewed with a similar attitude- why would seeing weird-but-ultimately-non-threatening (you know, because gay men definitely want sex with straight women) displays of sexuality degrade or harm the viewer?
(Which is kind of why the dynamic around this conversation is "but it harms the viewer by sexualizing them", which is an argument from aesthetics with scant factual backing, typically conflated with an argument on religious grounds because that's the group most known for operating as if it does have factual backing.)
As far as "secret conversations about sexuality"... if the median woman derives joy from being a social token with an underlying oppression narrative/excuse, well, it's natural for them to assume that everyone works like that, and being transgender is the tokenist token to token today.
Plus, it's a way for these women to vicariously experience being an (adoptive) mother and validate this version of the "me against the world" narrative; bonus points if you can blame it on big bad Dad.
This isn't a particularly imaginative take, but I think it's the most straightforward examination of why the claims of "this movement is intended so that strange men can fuck your son or daughter" (which is what pedo means in the mind of the general public) just haven't been resonating with the general public.
The critics can occasionally get a workable angle in painting these sorts of behaviors as molestation (and if you reverse the genders above, they would be instantly recognized as such). "Sexualization" is a first pass, "brainwashing" a slight refinement, and "they're protecting teen boys who molest your daughter and arrest you if you protest" is enough to propel an anti-molestation candidate into office in Virginia.
In summary, I'm at a complete loss for why a movement by and for straight, white, misandrist women want to increase the amount of exploitative sex men have with their daughters, and I think everyone else is too.
Also, I think everyone with eyes can see that the standard for "how old should a person be before it's kosher for (older) adults to have sex with them" has only been rising. One has to cook up conspiracy theories such as "well obviously they are outwardly lying while fucking kids on the down low even more", while ignoring what seems to me like a very obvious fact - the less trust society has in close, individual adult-child relationships, the fewer avenues there are for exploitation.
The amount of thirsting over underage male characters I observe, outside of specialized places, is much lower than underage female characters so the exact disparity is hard to observe as well. Millions want to fuck Asuka, barely anyone wants to fuck Shinji.
Maybe those who introduce such standards don't think they're "just putting a medical spin on it", but rather that the case is medical? Then it's different standards of agency for different fields, which is how it worked everywhere since time immemorial, by my rough estimate.
The women consent thing is weird, but there are still age limits for other things that are set above adulthood - like being the President - so there's some precedent.
Well yeah, it's where the medical meets the cultural. It's kind of like if a child required blood transfusion, and the parents are Mormons who'll say no, and don't blood transfusions sometimes cause rejection? Except in this case, I doubt the child's consent would even be asked, I'd expect the doctors to just do it.
So far "no, you don't have a right to another person's intimacy, not even if you want to die without it" works well enough.
I don't know who that is. I suspect the only people who do are the kind of people who don't do the consideration and those who are fed outrage fuel - and only the former are present in her audience.
She's a credentialed clinical psychologist. If that doesn't matter unless enough people have heard about her, why do we bother with credentials? Also, how many people, exactly, would need to have heard about her for it to matter? Maybe I can solve the issue with some targeted ads.
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