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I’m curious and maybe you can answer better than I can, but I suspect that at times behavioral things, a manner of walking or word choice when talking or ways of behaving play a bigger part in “passing” than even looks do.
The times I’ve been able to “clock” someone it was because some of their mannerisms seemed a bit …. uncanny valley. Just slightly too forced, too over thought, or slightly unnatural to the person.
I'd agree that can play into it, Voice is also a huge one, and that demonstrates how tough a question defining passing can be.
Mannerisms take time and interaction to observe. So right away, if you're saying that by appearance they more or less pass but that by long interaction they don't, that means that person will have lots of interactions every day where they pass. The teller at the bank, the checkout clerk at the grocery store, people passing in the street, will all treat such a person as their chosen gender. While at the same time, people they get close to or have long conversations with won't unless they choose to be polite about it. That's a really tough place to be.
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