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I think the main difference is that male attributes are more legible and women are attuned to the relative status of their males. Men can have the relative attractiveness of their wives blur together and anyways they compete with other males on plenty of other categories that wife attractiveness is only one factor in many. Mean while until women have children to brag about other women can very quickly tell how tall, how apparently wealthy and how well placed a partner is in the legible male status hierarchy. Neither women nor men seem to care all that much about women's careers so despite energy being put there it doesn't really impact status anxiety all that much.
At least by perception the status of women is mostly one level removed from their control, what they can control is which man they attach themselves to. They get a facsimile of having high status by sleeping with the highest status male they can and convincing themselves that this is their true status. At least the single ones who didn't attach to a proto high status male, which is the underside of the iceberg often left undiscussed. These single people that make up the population we discuss have already been selected for something.
Interestingly, the same is true for crime. When men attempt to destroy their enemy, the signs are generally very, very visible- hard to hide scratches, bruises, and broken bones- but when women do the same, it's invisible and completely deniable (it's very difficult to prosecute a woman for false rape accusations, and their bullying more generally as the lies are told and the damage done behind closed doors and side channels).
As such, it takes a lot more effort to put an end to female bad actors (and a lot of the judgment will be on circumstantial evidence anyway), and the effect multiplies as the gender balance of an organization (including society at large) skews their way to the point where the (for lack of a better term) "begone thot" school of problem solving stops working.
Corruption is a difficult beast to deal with and no civilization ever survives it (States fall apart when the parasitic load gets too high, but can survive a lot of it to begin with); they all just fracture or are conquered (and we've managed to exterminate all barbarians that could do the latter).
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