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Oooh baby, did I hurt your precious fee-fees?
Since that seems to be the level we are now operating at. I'm single and childless by choice (and circumstance, a lot more circumstance than choice) and although I don't owe you bozos an explanation, it's because I would be a terrible parent and my family genetics are too shit to inflict on a new generation. I don't give a fuck about my chromosomes, except as part of my shitty genetic heritage. Were I a man, I'd be the same if women were writing about how men were all cockhounds who don't want to settle down to be responsible citizens, husbands and fathers until they're worn out and shagged out and think a much younger woman is a magic elixir to rejuvenate them - they're wrong and unless they have skin in the game, shut up.
That's partly why I don't appreciate a bunch of childless guys telling me and other women that there's a fertility crisis and it's all our fault, men - the innocent little lambs - have nothing to do with it. So yeah, I damn well am going to say "Okay, if you're out there judging women for 'riding the cock carousel', what have you done to address the problem? Are you a husband and father? If not, why not?"
Shut up unless you have skin in the game. I'm Catholic. We're officially anti-contraception, anti-abortion, and anti-fornication. And I think the remedies suggested by some on here are stupid to the point of being indistinguishable from the Taliban. If the likes of me are saying "Cool it guys" due to sounding like that, consider you might be going a tiny bit too far.
"Bitches ain't shit crowd"? Excuse me while I laugh. You have no goddamn idea the level of misanthropic loathing I have for the rest of humanity, and I freely include myself in the "ain't shit" category. If you honestly think my ox or any cow, bullock or calf has been gored, you are living down to your user name.
Or did you not know what Amadán means as Gaeilge?
Ignore away, little man. I don't care a straw for your opinion of me.
Tone policing aside, this is definitely a valid point. As they sometimes note on PCM, "Everybody want a trad wife, nobody wanna be a trad guy." I get the sense that there are a lot of dudes who want to seethe about prisoner's dillemas online, and they're not actually wrong! But seething does nothing to fix the problem; you need large numbers of people, men and women both to actively and enthusiastically choose to cooperate. Unfuck yourself first, modern man.
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But the Taliban won. The Taliban are still around, and will probably still be around in a 100 years.
Can the Western women say the same?
Here is what I like to say to anybody who opposes any tiny little setback to the feminist agenda:
it's us or the Taliban.
I haven't read the Handmaid's Tale, just saw some outraged comments about the tale.
Are the women in that fiction better or worse off than Afghan women under Taliban rule?
I don't think it can ever be much better than the current situation for feminism-minded Western women.
Western women had one job, making more Westerners. Now it's time for new solutions.
This is the face of the young right-wing, if this guy does not go through, then somebody that is slightly closer to the Taliban will try, until eventually they succeed, or Western people will just stop existing.
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You're kidding, right?
I don't care about your status and I have no idea how you read my warning as some sort of judgment of your life choices.
I'm telling you not to tell other people to shut up because you don't like their opinions. You have a pattern of thinking all's fair until something offends you personally, and that's the line in the sand where the rules don't apply. You are mistaken, and I'm informing you of that.
You're kidding, right?
When you're a mod, there's a difference to when you're one of the commenters.
Amadan: Mod hat on - neutral tone, statement of offence and punishment (if any), rationale for same
Amadan: Mod hat off - hey, stupid bitch, are your chromosomes gored?
See the difference? As a mod, you can't give pissy little snide remarks. When you're down in the mud with the rest of us as a mere commenter, you can throw your clothes off with the best of them.
And as regards your user name, no, I'm not kidding. Every time I see it that meaning is immediately what comes to mind. Such unfortunate coincidences do happen, and I am not at all implying nominative determinism is at work here.
I will take the point that the chromosomes crack was perhaps unnecessarily snide, but I reject the accusation of calling you (even by implication) a "stupid bitch."
What amazed me was that you might think I was unaware of the origins of a user name I've been using for about as long as I've been on the Internet.
Hard to know - think of the Chinese tattoo stories. If you know the meaning and are happy to use it, we salute you!
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To expand on the above - a poem from 1914:
And that's a much more cheerful view than the one I possess.
When it comes to mods and commenters, what I have to do is respect your authority (Cartman not intended). We don't have to like each other or respect each other personally, it's a "salute the uniform, not the man" situation. But if I accept that you have the right and the position and the authority to mod me, it has to be done on a 'separation of powers' basis. So yes, you can and indeed should mod me for "reports of antagonism" or "intemperate language" or "boo outgroup" or whatever other reason. Even "dunking on the woke", God help us, is sufficient grounds. Adding in whinging about "ignoring explosions" or "bitches ain't shit crowd" or "chromosomes getting gored" just makes you sound like you got your dick caught in your zipper.
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