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And this will eventually be the undoing of your culture. Back home the culture is controlled by experienced elders, plenty of women in this group (my grandma is basically the head of my extended family) but they all tend to be 55+ and experienced in how life works, rather than 23 year olds who couldn't tell their ass from their elbow. Overall it turns out better for social cohesion etc. than your system.
It's strange in a way how you people get everything backwards. Back home the culture is controlled by the elders, while money is controlled by the young (parents are dependent on their children in old age, very few have independent pensions of the sort that would let them maintain their lifestyle) but in the west you have the exact opposite situation, culture is controlled by the young but the money is by and large in the hands of the old. This is an unnatural situation and the west is currently tasting its bitter fruit.
If I'm a young person and I control the money, why do I listen to my elders? Why don't I just run away and make a life for myself?
This comes back to bite you in the ass 20 years down the line when the people around you have a strong social network backing them up while you have nothing and society is build upon the assumption that you'll have your personal network as a safety net to fall back on.
Plus you get shunned from society for being a prodigal son who has broken the social contract (parents take care of children then children take care of parents) and you will find it hard to get married, no decent family will let their child marry you without assurances that you won't do to their child what you did to your own flesh and blood, well unless your spouse also shuns their family, but at that point you've put your lot into the 100% individualist basket in a society that inst build for individualism at this level, so naturally you'll face added difficulties (money of course will help with things).
If you have money but shun your parents at best you'll be a rich recluse which gets very lonely into your later years. Money only gets you so far in life, and social relationships are at least as important towards self actualisation.
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I assume that, back when society was more unified, the reason used to be that doing so would incur huge social stigma which would make it very hard to maintain or improve your social status. Now if you live in a traditional society you probably can just escape to one of the nearby globohomo beachheads, likely a major city or a neighboring NGO-infested country.
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