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How would you phrase it? Sexual partners seems odd to me, many of mine I have no idea whether they would have made good wives or not. From what you said, I don't think your one or two night stands would have given you much insight either. Sex isn't a good indicator of seriousness. I tried to leave that to each person up determine when they'd have that judgment.
I would phrase it as how many of the people you had a shot with did you consider to be marriage material. Id also define what "marriage material" constitutes and from whose perspective.
The way you qualified things now can make people seem like puritans or losers even if they are the opposite.
As for whether you can tell, I think you can from way earlier than 5 dates. Furthermore what I'm referring to are not tinder dates with completely unknown people. If I meet someone at a party, odds are that I'm at least somewhat familiar with who they are, at least indirectly, even if we haven't talked much at length previously. It isn't so much the sex itself that gives you information as the increased closeness, spending time in their home and learning a bit more about their personal familial and financial situation that does it.
If I go on a "tinder date" then maybe but even then I'd say you probably know before date 5. The issue is that (some)people don't want to think about this stuff, not that it's impossible to tell early. I've been able to tell from the first meeting with friends girlfriends whether things are going to last or not. The issue isn't figuring it out, the issue is whether you're lying to yourself or not.
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