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Because they’re special snowflakes. There doesn’t seem to be much else to it. Everything about all of them(people of neopronouns) is unique; self expression is always the highest priority. Add it all up and there’s some unusual neopronouns because the singular they doesn’t capture their uniqueness.
Yep, I totally agree. It's perfectly normal for teenagers to go to great lengths to express what unique snowflakes they are, and how nobody else gets them. But as you said, when those teenagers grow up they need to also grow out of the childish behavior.
When I was a teenager, I used to be seething mad that my parents made me get braces. As an adult, I cringe and feel bad that I was such a little shit about it. I certainly wouldn't go on a crusade to require that no parents be allowed to put their kids through orthodontics just to validate my teenage feelings.
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Fine and healthy is a bit of a stretch- the whole point of being a teenager is learning to be an adult slowly, so infantile look at me nonsense is not laudable even if it comes from teens- but it’s certainly excusable and acceptable for adolescents to make up random bullshit that they can be dramatic about. The bit problem with trans is when 1) adults encourage them in this and 2) it has rather more severe consequences than calling Jessica a bitch for stealing your fanfiction character.
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Precisely - and the problem is that normally teen slang is limited to that demographic, and in fact actively discouraged from being used by adults. Neopronouns however are required to be used by all on pain of social ostracism.
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