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Why is it so important to you that middle and high schoolers do not learn about gender and sexuality? Understanding those things is important for children and adolescents to understand what abuse looks like and how to avoid it and report it. And for them to know what a healthy understanding of themselves looks like and what healthy relationships look like, which is important for any person's happiness and wellbeing.
I believe that you honestly want what's best for your children and somehow think keeping them away from such information is better for them, but I read your posts and just hope your children against the odds manage to become well-adjusted adults despite your efforts.
Perhaps this is my bias as a parent, but insulting the way people raise their kids is often a step beyond insulting them personally.
"You are an asshole" is less antagonistic than "Your kids are assholes, and it is your fault".
Take a time out. 3 day ban.
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Gender Queer is, among other things, a book of gay cartoon sex. Targeted at 8 year olds and stocked in public school libraries at my expense.
I support sex ed and some Motte interpretation of the positive things you mention. But the current popular Bailey of sexual cartoon books for young children supplied at taxpayer expense has nothing to do with those positive vibes.
Sneering contempt against most parents.
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Speaking just for myself, I’m not entirely opposed to elementary schoolers (that is, 10 to 12 year olds) learning about puberty in a strictly “changes to the body” sense. I am not opposed to middle schoolers (that is, 14 year olds or thereabouts) learning about sexuality in a strictly heterosexual, pro-natal “this is what sex is and you should wait until marriage” way.
What I am opposed to is a combination of these concepts being introduced at much younger ages (“We’re just teaching them to recognize abuse!!” is a motte at those ages), and the fact that nearly everyone doing the teaching is philosophically opposed to my people’s point of view.
On another note, “Why is it so important to you” questions, and all variations thereof, are silly. It’s clearly important to you or else you wouldn’t be asking the question, so humans being what we are, someone somewhere is going to take the opposite stance from you. Questions like that remind me of the scene in Blindsight where the aliens perceive informationally-unnecessary communication as a hostile attack on their mental processing cycles.
Delightful comparison
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