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For me it's not really about the activities, but the times and places I've left behind. I often miss the easy serendipity of college, where I didn't need to create a partiful and blast reminders in order to get 10 people to show up to an event. Shit, I could get 10 on a tuesday with 1 message to a group chat, now everyone needs a week notice because they have plans and 30 minute drives and on-call at the smoke alarm installer (Not a joke, one friend literally has this job and gets called to drive 2-4 hours to fix the smoke alarms at big corporate campuses).
But we can't live in the past, and tbh I'm not sure I'd want a bunch of college student friends right now even if the age gulf it wouldn't be a little weird. My current guests never clog sinks with vomit and the incidence of awkward friend group damaging breakups is down a solid 50%.
I definitely do miss just being able to walk places and have events going on, but that's a choice I made in exchange for living somewhere I can actually afford a house, so c'est la vie.
This is also why I liked Pai so much, it was a small town where you could just do what you wanted with other travellers without prior notice.
In my case, I never had a fun college or high school life, the last two years post uni were even worse due to my startup LARP so the bar for me is a lot lower. Good chance I do and think the way you do once I party a bit after my sabbatical.
Worth it imo, owning a house in a decent town and having savings really makes a difference. Unless its Manhattan and you are stuck with a 60 year mortgage lol. The US is quite unique this way, in India, you cannot buy a decent house unless you are involved in shady things. You get a third-rate run-down apartment in Delhi for the price of a ranch in a smaller blue state in the US, which would have a much better quality of life.
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