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PaperclipPerfector  4d ago (text post)   1098 thread views

Wellness Wednesday for March 5, 2025

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— I didn’t realize people really did steroids. It’s weird realizing first of all that a decent number of guys are on some kind of dosing cycle or other, and second that a lot of them aren’t that strong. It’s really not the difference maker it is often made out to be. I have nothing against mild steroid use morally, it’s something I would consider in another ten years or so, but I’m just surprised to actually see it. It’s one of those things I’m always surprised when I run into people who actually do it, like hard drugs or leaving your wife for a younger woman. I understand that such things are normal, but I kind of assume they happen somewhere off camera statistically, not right in front of me.

There are so many moments like this I've had in my life and I'm sure there will be many more.

Most of the posters attracted to this site aren't the average person. I'm not saying that to say we're better, I'm just saying we're outliers.

So we live our life in our own ways and then we get exposed to what everyone else is doing. Steroids is a thing, but there are so many 'wtf' moments where you're kind of shocked that people live their lives in such a cavalier way.

It''s kind of great. I've run into people that have shown 'you live like that?' on their faces to me too. Makes me laugh

Each to their own, but yeah; wtf.

Steroids is a thing, but there are so many 'wtf' moments where you're kind of shocked that people live their lives in such a cavalier way.

This is so much a part of my day to day life. Especially when it comes to finances. I can't believe people actually carry credit card balances. I can't believe finance used Range Rovers.

It''s kind of great. I've run into people that have shown 'you live like that?' on their faces to me too.

My wife and I still laugh about, some months back, my buddy bought a new pickup, and stopped by while he was driving through our neighborhood with his wife and kid just to say hello and show it off. It was maybe 4:30 on a Saturday, we'd both wrapped up work by 3:00, and we decided to do a Charcuterie board for dinner. Which meant chopping up a couple blocks of cheese, laying out some smoked meats, a little lumpfish roe, some honeycomb, a parbaked baguette, etc. Well, they swing by, and naturally we invite them in for food and we open a bottle of wine, because it's literally already sitting there on the cutting board. And his wife is stunned, because she feels like "these freaks just had this on hand?"

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