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I've found that my very first time with anyone tends to suck; the good first-time sex I've had still wasn't as technically good as the 3rd+ times with that same person. Maybe zoomers never fuck anyone twice, so they never find this out?
I mean hookup culture, mathematically, seems to be the same few people hooking up with each other- I’m guessing lots of these are repeat hookups with the same person.
Human sexuality is meant to either have actual relationships with members of the same tribe, or rapey encounters with the outgroup. Hookups are neither and they leave their participants feeling gross and unsatisfied.
I can easily imagine a case where both
a) the majority of hookups are with repeat partners
b) the majority of people having hookups are with a new partner.
Example: a small clique of 11 people who all hooked up with all the other 10 3x times each (55x3->165 total hookups), and a larger group of 20 people who each had one hookup apiece.
Total number of hookups: 55x3 + 10, or 165.
Total number of first-time hookups: 55+10, or 65.
% of hookups with repeat partners: ~61%
Median number of hookup partners: 1
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