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I can now work for 9 hours without any noticeable fatigue and more than that my daily routine is more fine-tuned. On a good day, I wake up early, hit the gym, meditate, do math for 3 hours, code 4 hours, rehab my shoulder, meditate again and then write some more code. My only issue so far has been discipline at times of sleeping and family problems.
Some personal woes
The bad parts - My family has had a ton of these fake court cases and the one on our house will get a decision this feb on the 28th from the high court. We should win but I am simply only assuming that the worst will happen, we will lose the ancestral home we were born in to far-flung unknown illegitimate relatives since I do not trust the courts, I do not trust India, the people, or the institutions. On top of that, my dad booked tickets for us for mahakumbh which is an event in Prayagraj. It attracted 100 million visitors alone as this is supposed to be something that happens once in 144 years. Well, the most auspicious day was mauni amavasya which happened two days and people got killed in a stampede.
My grandad threw a fit on this and that wrecked my entire day work-wise. He believes that we all will die or at least one of us will and his house will go to his "enemies". I cannot share any of this publicly or even with friends, not after my startup larp where my ex co-founder burned all my social capital after doxxing my friends for no reason. How do I cope in case something actually bad happens, I do not want it to but I want to be prepared at the very least. My family has been embroiled in legal battles since the 50s, they spend most of what they earn on legal fee. We had a miserable time and it did play a part in my family being dysfunctional.
As I started my sabbatical and after going to thailand, I feel more adult and I cant help but feel I am responsible for both these things. Maybe I should not have asked my dad to consider mahakumbh. He was planning to buy himself a new laptop but spent that money on flight tickets, he told my ma in passing that he did it because I would have gone there had I been earning, hearing that breaks my heart. We visit on the 23rd, the flights are non refundable but we may cancel if things get worse, they should not but just in case.
Something wholesome to end my update
I got dms from a friend after he saw my name at the top of the list in Math Academy in a tweet the guy running it put out I joked about this being the first time since 2019 I got used for educational adverstiign materials lol. Those who have been reading my updates can probably spot it. I am back to lifting similar weights that I stopped at when I hurt my shoulder, I can meditate longer. Beyond that the meds, a routine, deliberate effort make studying things easier, more productive. By next I want to sustain a higher output and link projects from my github, hopefully have the court cases go well too. I did not want to mention it, no one likes reading sad things. Being somewhat better, progressing helps me to respect myself, not a lot but more than I did before. I never thought I would and that is quite uplifting, maybe things do get better.
Congrats on the maths and the stamina progress, that’s pretty hefty. I don’t have that staying power, though I’d like to.
Appreciate it man. Following the advice my mom gave helped, I ofc got it reinforced and then forced down my throat via my counselor, who sits in the psychairtrists clinic. Sleeping on time, being mindful during all waking moments, especially when I meditate, when I work, having alarms in my laptop that are synced with my pc, having co-working meetings with my much more talented and extremely serious friends where my screen and face are visible at all times.
Simple advice works it seems.
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